HEY Cancer: Put up your dukes!

For: Pat May
Organizer: Sarah Fox
HEY Cancer:  Put up your dukes! (Pat May)
of $2,500 goal
67% Complete
Raised by 24 donors
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The Story

Family & Friends of Pearsidia (Graham) May:

As we all adjust to the devastating news that our Mom, Granny, Memaw, GG, Sister, Aunt & Friend, Pat is facing a fight with pancreatic cancer, you may wonder what you can do.  

I hope that everyone gets the opportunity to visit, call and send your love & prayers, which are so important to this fight!  If you would like to make a monetary donation, that too would ease the stress of this whole situation!  

As you know, she is going to Tampa on a regular basis to get treatment and tests performed at Moffitt Cancer Center, which is a renouned facility where we can be certain she is in good hands. However, she and Mom (Carla) are traveling there on a weekly basis...about 2 hours from home.  Sometimes it is only for a day, but there are times that overnight is necessary, which means paying for a hotel, eating, and everything that goes with being out of your element. While I feel that we are so blessed that Carla is not working and is available to take care of all of the calling, coordinating, driving and managing, I know it is not cheap.  

I know that she has used up much of her hard earned retirement savings since Sophia was born and she selflessly moved her life to the panhandle to take care of us when we needed her so much...she has continued to give of her money, time, home and anything else that she can help others with...especially for her mother.  She has handled Dr. bills, medications and other expenses that a fixed income does not cover.  She has opened her home to those who vacationed in Florida, she has been an amazing landlord for her family tenents.  

Over the past few months, she has began taking odd jobs cleaning houses, pet-sitting, cooking for elderly or ill friends and neighbors, running errands, etc to earn supplemental income while being able to have the flexibility to care for Granny since she first became sick in January...little did we know it would turn into the long fight and ultimate diagnosis that we've recently learned.

We all know that she cannot sustain this for the long term and I am dedicating myself to helping raise and give money when I can to help defer the cost of all of the additional expenses that she will no doubt, quietly accept.  I have no doubt that she will work her tail off or give up anything she can live without to see that her mother has everything she needs...I've never known a stronger willed, more determined and hardworking woman as my amazing mom!

Please follow this free fundraiser campaign for updates on Pat's condition & any amount that you have on your heart to donate (big or small) is so graciously and humbly accepted.  

With love,


Fundraiser Updates

Posted on August 16, 2013

Posted on August 16, 2013

Granny had her first does of chemotherapy yesterday (mid afternoon)...all was well until this update from "nursing headquarters" not more than an hour ago:

Chemo side effects have started, fatigue and nausea. Additionally I was instructed to close the exterior portion of the biliary drain to make sure that all we will need to get in Tampa Monday is a stint in the place of the catheter that is in place. If she has pain once it is closed, they would have to start over with a new interior/exterior drain. So far, so good, she is 8 hours in with no pain! Last time we tried, she didn't make it 4 hours.

She has enjoyed numerous out-of-town visitors to include:  Tracy, Jill & Kristy, Bobby & Sue with Tiffany & Rachel, Teresa and Little Roy, David Park, Nicole & sweet Nathan Croft (May)...and myself and the babies.  I have since taken the babies home to Daddy, as they are just too busy for the situation and, although my intentions were good, this really isn't the "scene" for youngsters long term.

Tracy brought DVDs created with old videos of family reunions, which included Granny and her sisters singing "Just A Little Walk With Jesus" starring Granny as the solo "tenor"...(imagine the "giddy-up, oom-bop" part of "Elvira).  Papaw (Joe May) was even in several of the videos...which of course, spawned lots of (happy) salty water expulsion.  

Even though Granny can only handle a spoonful at a time as far as company goes, she is certainly high-spirited with the visitors and love...I know how important it is to her to get some time with everyone.  Her sisters will arrive Monday or Tuesday and I can only imagine that she is beyond excited anticipating their arrival.  Her sisters and brothers are very dear to her...and know her like no one else.  It makes my heart smile to be part of such a closely bonded family as the Grahams/Parks/Mays...we are a tight knit family...as thick as thieves.  :)  

I am posting a few pictures shared from the various visitors via Face Book...and I have to say again:  The generosity in donations have been so touching.  Granny has teared up reading and hearing your comments, letters and donations.  When I thought she would be upset about my putting this fundraiser together, I was pleasantly surprised...she simply said, "I will not rob someone of a blessing"...

Please continue to send your love, letters, cards and prayers!  Love to all!

Posted on August 9, 2013

Posted on August 9, 2013

Hoping to begin chemotherapy on Thursday next week...Granny is so touched by all of the love and donations...between the fundraiser online and mail, we've raised over $3800!! Amazing!  Please pray for her and our entire family...no one knew how tough this would be...watching someone you love suffer is garbage!  She is improving and getting stronger and we can only hope that the chemo does not bring her down again.  Chemo will not "cure" her, but it will be the best fight to keep the cancer from spreading to her lymph system and stomach...so if she can hendle this without too much discomfort, it will be a blessing.  

Cards/letters/prayers welcome!  XOXO

Posted on July 28, 2013

Posted on July 28, 2013

WOW!  The generosity and love is AMAZING!  Thank you so very much!  My mom has discovered the fundraiser and is SO mad at me...but I don't care.  (Okay, so I'm a bit scared but...I'll take the chance :)

Tonight, After a borderline attempted escape from Moffitt (the nurses were taking about 3.5 hours longer than Granny was willing to tolerate to "get [her] the hell out of [there]!" and Mom was COMPLETELY on board with a "bust out" so long as Granny put on a bra and flip flops...ok, I digress...).  

Granny and Mom are safely home in PSJ and resting...Granny's bile duct drain is working marvelously and she is feeling about 3 of 10...BUT...as this yuk gets drained...she'll soon feel mucho better!  

Oncology appointment on Monday and we'll see what the next step is...we feel your prayers and love...I am so very humbled by the response to this fundraiser and touched beyond words. 


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