Help Fund Lola's Surgery

For: Lola
Organizer: Lola
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The Story

Who I am

My name is Lola. I was born with a disorder that means I can't make certain hormones. Among those are testosterone and oestrogen. Doctors decided to give me sex hormones so I would develop "normally". Due to excessive bullying, I wanted this.

Now, my body causes me significant psychological distress. My chest is very uncomfortable and it just doesn't feel right. This is not just because of the size and physicality. It's also because it feels out of line with my agender identity.

Why I'm doing this

For the last five years, I've tried every way possible to get chest correction surgery on the NHS. I have tried going through several GPs who say my chest is not large enough. I've even gone through a Gender Identity Clinic, who have discharged me. They have basically said because I won't change my name, that I am not serious about it. And I'm now facing another 15 month waiting time should I request to be re-referred.

Even if I were to get referred for a reduction surgery through my GP, I may have to be psychologically assessed. This process can sometimes take more than a year. I just can't wait anymore.

I do not have the financial means to fund this myself. Saving the money would take another 2-3 years. And it would drain the rest of my savings, leaving nothing for even the possibility of starting a family. I am not on speaking terms with either of my biological parents. What little family I do have are poor or working class. Getting a loan is not very likely, as I've yet to even be able to get a credit card as an immigrant.

What this would mean for me
I have been pursuing this for more than five years, though I've been very uncomfortable with my chest for longer. Getting my surgery would mean the world to me. It would mean that I would feel right in my body. It would mean that I could exercise without pain. It would mean relief. And it would mean no more tight sports bras and binders that cut into my skin and make hot days unbearable.

It would also mean that maybe agender people are taken a bit more seriously by gender identity clinics across the world. It would mean that people could see agender dysphoria and discomfort as something that needs to be addressed.

How you can help
Donate. Even if it's just £5, that's enough. Even if it's £3. Thus far I've had donations ranging from £3 to £100. Every little bit counts.

If you absolutely can't donate, please share this! The more people who see it, the better.

Other ideas include doing an event to raise money, doing a collection in the workplace, offering a service you do in exchange for a donation to my campaign. Any of it works. Unfortunately, I can't offer material rewards without this being seen as a material service that's taxed.

Please do what you can and email me if you have any questions.

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on February 19, 2017

Posted on February 19, 2017

Sorry I haven't updated in awhile, but life has come back with a bang! I had my first intense aerobic exercise session since my surgery today and... I can jump in the air! Do burpees! It's amazing!

The surgeon told me they removed 1.2kg/2.8lbs from my chest. :)

Everything has been really awesome and I'm so, so happy that you've all helped me out. :D

I did a bit of a video about how I'm feeling, which is awesome. I couldn't have done it without you folks.

That said, I've fundraise 76% of the money that it's going to cost me and I would greatly appreciate any last pushes for fundraising you can do for me. Cause the loan payments are happening and it's very real. DD: Anything you can do is appreciated.

But most of all, thank you all for your help.

Thank you.


Posted on December 20, 2016

Posted on December 20, 2016

Another video uploaded of my progress:

https://youtu.be/0Po4mv-T-wM

It's been a week since my surgery and I'm feeling much better. :) Still looking for some donations. I've funded 76% of my surgery so far (the amount minus PayPal fees) so I appreciate any more.

And also, as an aside, I'm creating a zine for people who aren't with family on the holidays due to estrangement. Please contribute your story or coping skills here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdKDnoWn-51szFqIo0gjgayqcgXYDxK6jXBwdajZXey4Xk4rQ/viewform?c=0&w=1

Thank you!


Posted on December 15, 2016

Posted on December 15, 2016

Surgery went well and I spent one night in the hospital and am now healing and resting at home. It's taken me a bit to post an update since I've been mostly preoccupied with woozy-ness and drowsiness with painkillers. Luckily, I'm not in a lot of pain. It's mostly just incredibly uncomfortable to have to sleep sitting up, but I'm working with it.

The loan people didn't waste any time calling me to ask me if I had my procedure. Heh, I answered in quite a funny voice letting them know that I did have my procedure and I was healing so the paperwork is on the way.

I've raised most of it, but I still would like to keep fundraising until I meet the goal. So if you're feeling generous this holiday, I'd appreciate a donation if possible.

Thanks to everyone who has helped so far. I'm going to do another video after I get my bandages removed on Monday.

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