Posted on February 26, 2015
Posted on February 26, 2015Hello everyone. A lot has happened since our last update (which was forever ago..sorry!) So, Here's what has been happening in our lives these last few months.
In September our family was matched with a birthmother and we were very excited. She was due in early December so we had what seemed like a lot of time to get ready. We spent that time building a relationship with our birth mother. We shared a lot and even got to see some of her ultrasounds (which was amazing!) In late November as we were nearing her due date we were just waiting for the call that she was in labor. We prepared for travel, packed our bags, and started looking into lodging and flights. After our birth mother missed a few phone calls dates we had set up with her, we called our social worker to see if we should be worried and we were assured that sometimes birth mothers get busy and forget and not to worry. Then one friday morning as i pulled into work my phone started ringing and it was our adoption agency, my stomach dropped, could she really be in labor? I answered and the second I heard our social workers voice I knew it wasnt going to be good news. Our birth mother went into labor, had her son, and decided to keep him as her own. I tried to be strong and knew that we could never be upset with her for making that decision. We supported her no matter what.. even if that meant we had to start all over again. We grieved and cried and hurt. How could we love someone so much that we had never met? We had waited so long to be matched and we finally were. We built a relationship with this person and were getting more exicted every day and in an instant all that was taken away from us. Needless to say it took a couple months to readjust. After so much time making our spare bedroom into a nursery it slowly turned back into a storage room. It was hard to even go in there. We had just gotten back to a point where we were living normal lives again emotionally and physically. Then out of the blue we received a call.
It was February 2nd and the agency had matched us. They called to tell us that a baby boy had been born in Tampa, Florida and the birth mother had chosen us. He was born at 32 weeks gestational age and weighed in at 3.99 pounds. They warned us that we may have to stay at the hospital with him until he was full term gestationally. That was a long time.. we had never been away from Peyton for more than a weekend but we knew this was the opportunity. We were finally getting the chance to meet our son. We packed our bags, called our places of work and booked plane tickets. The hardest part was saying goodbye to Peyton. We might not potentially see her for almost two months. After lots of crying and hugging we borded our plane to meet our son. Once we landed, we dropped our things off at our "hotel" (we were blessed to be able to stay at a Ronald McDonald house that the agency connected us with) and then rushed over to the hospital to meet our baby boy.
When we arrived at the hospital we did not know what to expect. We walked in and saw the most beautiful baby boy. He was so small his skin sagged and it was a bright color red. He was hooked up to monitors and in a incubator. He had a lot of things to deal with but other than being so small and premature, we were told he was doing great. That was a relief.
So the waiting began.
For almost three weeks straight we sat in a dark small hospital room listening to beeps in our ears and nurses frequenting our room all day long. We never knew sitting could be so exausting. We were blessed because with everyday that passed he improved and grew and was showing the nurses who was boss! But it was very hard hearing and seeing all the other families who surrounded us in those halls everyday. Most were not as fortunate as we were. Many had been there for months, some babies over 4 months old. We saw one little girl even using a high chair. Their parents crying and losing hope that they might never be able to leave those hospital walls. It was heart breaking. We were exausted but we could never imagine going through what many of those parents were. It was one of the hardest times of our lives, but everyday we knew we were blessed.
After almost two weeks of just learning how to eat from a bottle (who knew it could be so hard to breathe and eat at the same time!) he finally got it down. And after spending almost the first month of his life in the NICU we were released.
And that bring us here. After flying all the way back across the country, we are home. Our family of four. Together. After years of hoping and dreaming and stressing and signing so many papers.. we are finally home.
World, we would like you to meet our son, Maddux Archer Graney. Born January 30th, 2015. 3.99 ibs 16.5 inches. Welcome little boy, you are are so loved.
Posted on July 9, 2014
Posted on July 9, 2014Finally!!! Our family has officially been "activated" so that means it's time to wait:) Our family profile will start to be shown to birth moms all across the United States now! the tineline of adoption is really unknown... We could get a call tomorrow or it could be a year from now.. We just don't know! But we are so excited to finally be waiting and we are so close to finally meeting the newest member of the Graney family! It also will give us a little time to save up the rest of the funds we need to complete this journey. If you have a chance take a minute to view our family"a profile and our video!! just so you can get an idea of what we have been up to!!! Thanks again for all you support!!!
Posted on July 3, 2014
Posted on July 3, 2014So we got the email we have been waiting for for months now! Our profile is complete :) The agency will be sending us a contract to have signed and notarized (Thanks Christy Keller!!!!) today and then we mail it off with our first HUGE payment and we become an active waiting family!! By sometime next week our profile will be availible online for birth mothers to view and we could be matched at anytime! Keep in mind.. that even though we will be "active" it could still take MONTHS to find a match. The agency told us that after becoming active it could be up to 12 months before we find a match.. maybe longer. Our family is so relieved to be at the point of "waiting". For now the paperwork stops but the searching begins! Thanks again for all your support.. we couldn't have made it to this point if it wasn't for all of you!
Once I am sent the link to our profile page I will make sure to share it so you can get an idea of what we have been doing all these months besides paperwork and so you can share in our story!! Love you guys!