Travis Jr. and Lillian Rose Memorial Fund

$8,075raised of $10,000 goal
80%

Organizer: Friends and Family of the Family Beneficiary: Travis Jr. and Lillian Rose Memorial Fund

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In November of 2013, this family was blessed with the news that they would be a welcoming not one, but two lives. The joy that filled their homes was overwhelming. 

On February 5, Erika (mom) and Travis (dad) went in to get a routine ultrasound and found out the genders of their children. Unfortunately, what should have been a day of celebration turned to a day of worry. Erika was 3 centimeters dilated and had gone into preterm labor. She was only 20 weeks pregnant. 

After rushing to the maternity triage, the couple was told that Erika would have to undergo surgery in order to stop the labor. The situation continued to go downhill. While in the operating room, the doctor told her that the surgery could not be done due to the fact that Travis Jr was already so low in the uterus that any stress could rupture the membranes.  Hospitalized bed rest was prescribed. 

Erika lasted only 20 days. Bed rest was very difficult. Erika went from working two jobs, seven days a week to watching life fly by through the three windows in her hollow sterile box of a room. Travis was left to care for their three year old son, carry the burden of all the finances in the household, and work almost every day. Yet, he daily visited his fiancée and unborn children. Most nights were spent with him reading to all three kids while Erika memorized the moments and imagmend their life after delivery. They did everything that was asked of them to prevent labor. Still, 20 days was all they got. 

The labor lasted a little over 24 hours. The contractions started as just back pain and progressed to intense contractions. A neonatologist was brought in. The expecting couple was told that because of the gestational age of the twins, there was nothing they would be able to do for the babies. The hospital did not resuscitate children at 22 weeks because they more than likely would be stillbirths, would be too small to use any equipment on, and would not survive. This destroyed the family. They felt they were being told the lives of their children were not worth saving. So they fought. They spoke to different hospitals and other doctors until they were finally told that the hospital would do all they could to keep the babies alive. 

26.5 hours after labor began, the twins were delivered.... ALIVE, BREATHING, AND CRYING!  Their cries were so small, yet sent a message of hope to not only the parents, but every nurse, doctor, and tech in the room. They were 150 grams bigger than expected. They were able to be stabilized with the proper equipment and were rushed to the NICU.

Travis went to be with them while Erika recovered. A few hours later, Erika was rushed down to the NICU. Travis Jr. and Lillian Rose were not going to make it. Though everything possible had been done, God needed these two angels. Their last few hours were spent in the arms of their parents while Mom sang "You Are My Sunshine" and Dad read them their favorite book. They were surrounded by loved ones and were comfortable as they passed. 

As if the loss of their children was not stressful enough, the trauma and difficulty of the labor and the raging hormones have caused Erika to have a hemmorage in her right eye causing her to partially lose her vision. She will not be able to work until a series of procedures are conducted. 

Family and friends are trying to help the family through this time. Due to Erika not being able to work prior to surgery, the expense of her hospital stay, the cost of the twins' life saving efforts, and now the inability of Erika to work, we are hoping to raise funds to help them through this terrible time. Thanks to the kind hearts of many, we have been able to raise $470 thus far and hope to continue assisting. Please consider making a difference and helping this family. 


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03/22/2014
by Friends and Family of the Family

Thank you so much to all of you who have donated to our family. The kindness and generosity we have received from family, friends, and strangers alike has brought us more comfort than we can ever express. We will NEVER forget how so many have reached out to comfort us.  Though we were able to give Heaven two PERFECT angels, we have been given the opportunity to see that God has placed many angels here on earth as well. Thank you for the prayers, encouragement, motivation, and strength you have provided us. ????????

 

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03/12/2014
by Friends and Family of the Family
Trying to get back to a "normal" life is not as easy as everyone makes it out to be.

This week we are at my mother-in-law's home. Stephanie Long Bish has been great and welcoming. Still, Travis Alexander Ramos Sr. and I think about our little angels constantly. We had to go and finish choosing the plaque that will go over Jr and Lillian's grave yesterday. It was harder than I thought it would be. It was great getting the opportunity to talk to them, though. Ayden came with me. He still doesn't know that his brother and sister will never be able to play hide-and-seek or sing "Ring Around the Rosie" with him. There is no way to explain to a three-year-old that he wont have Jr to rough house with or Lillian to protect from suitors in the future. All we could tell him was that the grave we were praying, singing, and talking to was a magical place where, if we closed our eyes and placed our hands over it, we would feel the magic rush to our hearts.


I wish for them all the time. I know it will never happen, but I imagine what life would be like with them. I would give anything to have them by our side.

We have aggressively started my eye treatments this week, as well. I have had injections AND laser surgery. It is not easy and I truly dislike it. I know it has to get done so I do not permanently lose my vision, but it sucks. I wish I had an eye patch... yes, I have been degraded to this point. It would sure help me from the bright blinding lights and instant migraines.

So, is life back to normal. No. I don't think it will ever be. Right now, not being able to work, drive, or help contribute to my household hurts and saddens me. But I appreciate the help and love Travis and I have received from everyone. It is mind-blowing how caring so many of you have been. I do not know how to thank you. Please continue to share their page below. They are two little angels that have touched the hearts of many.

I know, for us at least, they have taught us to value each other a lot more. To be thankful for the friends and family in our lives, no matter how long it has been since we last spoke. To cherish every small moment, though at the time it may seem insignificant. To fight for what we believe and stick to our morals and values. I hope they can teach all of you something too.


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