Posted on March 16, 2017
Do you believe in magic? It is said that difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. Take a moment and read this month's This! magazine. And savor Lindsay McKinnon's words about Big Magic. May we all continue to lift each other and learn from each other and love each other every single day.
Link to article: www.thisroanoke.org (click on the online issue click the right arrow 3 times, then double click the article to zoom in)
Here's an excerpt...
LINDSAY'S WORDS OF WISDOM.
ON GRATITUDE. “I went through THAT and I am still alive. I can feel my lungs. They are different but I can feel them. My breath counts. I am more grateful for it. And I made it out. Others didn’t.”
ON TRUTH. “I don’t have a second to waste. And honestly no one does. We need to cut through the bullshit. We need to cut through the drama and the adrenaline rush it can bring. Just no more bullshit. Be more transparent. Be real. Be authentic.”
ON PRAYER. “Every day I ask for help. I ask to be shown something.”
ON BODYWORK. “I ask my body what it needs. Sometimes it is not always a massage, or a hike, or an egg over arugula. I listen. Deep breath is a constant practice and Qoya has helped so much. I ask my body, it tells me what I need.”
ON QUESTIONS.“Questions like “How are you?” and “What are you going to do?” are hard. But I don’t want people to be afraid of asking things. You can’t say anything to offend. And if you do, you get a do-over.”
ON MOTHERHOOD. “The hardest part is identity. I miss and want to be part of connecting with and being in the community with other Moms. This is hard. Really hard. I’m a Mom. I’ll always be a Mom. I am just experiencing my boys in a different way.”
ON ISOLATION. “I have to force myself to keep reaching. For women, when they have all 3 Ds: despair, devastation and disenfranchisement they die. Their souls die. Isolation is scary. I keep reaching. If I become isolated, it gives other people permission to isolate. I DON'T GIVE THAT KIND OF PERMISSION."
ON ADVICE. “That we are all going to be OK. But we have to lean in.”
ON LIVING. “I want to live. I want to feel it all. With all my senses. The full range of emotions. I want the full life experience.”
ON GRIEF. “That it’s OK. Grief is not bad. It hurts. But it is not bad. We can do the hard stuff. And we have to.”
ON HEALING. “To heal, I have to be seen. We have to be seen. True healing, thorough healing only happens when it is witnessed. Yes, I am healing. Am I healed? No. I’ll be healing for a lifetime. Healing isn’t about fixing anything. It’s more about navigating. I think we associate healing with feeling good, but healing is really about feeling honest and true. It’s about being your authentic self.
There is no dualism thinking or way of being. It isn’t either or...it’s all the places in between. Not but...it’s AND, AND, and AND...”
ON WHAT'S NEXT. “My upcoming retreats. Creating more opportunities for women to gather. I also feel an incredible responsibility to help this community to move through their grief whether it’s connected to ours or their own. I don’t think I do it better, but I do it different.
I’ll continue to say Hell YES to what is calling me. To live in the questions. To trust and not have to know at the same time. To continue to love and to serve. And to create and connect.”
HOLLIE'S SUMMARY. There was so much goodness and wisdom in my chat with Lindsay. I can't do it justice here. But if I had to pick the through line and what we most can learn from this powerful Mama and Wayshower it'd be this:
Deep connection with people, with God (whatever your name) and with your body (& intuition) is everything. It turns out Lindsay had been building these foundations her entire life. So when all crumbled and fell away she was held.
So what can you do? What can I do? We can become devoted to loving and serving others more, to praying daily for guidance and creating space to hear the answers, we can take care of and tune into the wisdom of our bodies like never before because they are the most important homes we'll ever live in.
We can do these things that matter. And then... trust and surrender to the rest...with a knowing that all will be OK. We are held. And it is magical.
That’s big magic. That’s big love. That’s Lindsay Hughes McKinnon.