Polydelphians: We have an opportunity to grow, respond, change, and rise to meet the challenges that face us.
If you're reading this, you probably already know what Polydelphia is; but just in case, Polydelphia is a community of self-identified ethically non-monogamous/polyamourous humans in the Greater Philadelphia Metropolitan Area. The community began as a relatively small social network, but has grown to include over 400 people. As Polydelphia has grown, we have been faced with an opportunity to consider how we want to greet troubling circumstances.
The world we live in can be unkind, and no matter how openly we love, sometimes we will be faced with social rupture, reports of abuse or exploitation among our members, and calls to support people who are hurting. Often when communities are faced with these challenges, the reflex is to fall back upon the familiar structures our culture has promulgated. However, these structures themselves have their own problems, blind spots, and unkindnesses.
Several weeks ago, I met with a man named Don Haldeman. Don worked as the Delaware County restorative justice specialist for 16 years and now teaches restorative justice facilitation and peacemaking circle dialogue both privately and at Widener University. I spoke with Don for several hours about the challenges of coping and healing after abuse allegations in a community where things like privacy and inclusion are competing priorities, and where traditional existing legal structures, remedies, and language are found wanting.
Don, and his co-facilitator Melissa Lucchesi (founder of Voices, Incorporated) have offered to hold a two-day training workshop for up to twenty Polydelphia members to provide ambassadors and leaders in providing a truly dialogue-based healing alternative. The workshop will be tailored to speak specifically to a network of ethically non-monogamous humans.
In order to open this opportunity to as many enthusiastic and passionate attendees as possible, we'd like to give Polydelphia and its loved ones a chance to lower the financial barriers to entry for the attendants and make the training as accessible as possible. The attendees will be called to dig deep on their emotional reserves, be vulnerable, and prepared to inform difficult situations with their wisdom and skills moving forward.
Please consider making a donation of any amount to give the Polydelphia community a chance to explore and employ a new skillset as our network grows and changes.