Support Steve, Shannon & Carter

For: Steve Shinde & Shannon Patterson
Vancouver, BC, Canada
Organizer: Shauna Patterson & Ellen Kurz
$14,231
of $10,000 goal.
Raised by 131 donors
100% Complete
This fundraiser is closed. Thank you for your support!

The Story

This is a fundraising page to help our friend and warrior Steve Shinde, husband to Shannon Patterson and dad to 7 year old Carter.

On April 9th, 2015 at 45 years old, Steve suffered a massive blood vessel bleed in his brain while on duty in his Bylaw Enforcement position with the City of Vancouver.

Steve has survived the initial crisis and has fought through other medical complications including a 10-day battle of pneumonia. It is expected that Steve will remain in the hospital for quite some time to come.  Medically he is much more stable now, though brain injuries are complex and each day is a balancing act. He recognizes those closest to him and laughs at jokes made by those visiting. It is difficult for him to articulate what he is thinking but it is obvious that he wants to be part of the conversation. His loving nature is still ever present. His gaze travels to Shannon all the time and he searches for her hand to touch and hold. His smile lights up the room when Carter is around. Obviously he recognizes the loves of his life and that is encouraging.

In an update from May 8th Shannon wrote:

“…In the last week Steve has regained strength enough to come off all oxygen and has begun eating, speaking, reading and had started to be able to move his right side a little bit. Every day he is progressing and I can tell he is in Warrior mode :) Seeing him smile and laugh again is the best gift I have ever received. To be able to have our family cuddles again and watching him beginning to be able to interact with his son again is indescribable. Steve has a journey ahead of him, but don't we all. The love and support we have received, and continue to receive, from so many has meant the world to us. Thank you. ..”

Steve is a warrior, facing the fight of his life and the road will be long.  Shannon and Carter are Steve’s entire world and he will do anything he can to get back home to his family. Those of us who love this family can only imagine the heartbreak of having your life change in an instant and be helpless to support your family.  Now is the time when he needs our help.


The reason and sad reality of the need for fundraising is that Steve, even though he is a long time employee of the City of Vancouver, does not have short or long-term disability coverage.  For Steve, Shannon and Carter this means that soon Steve will have used up his banked sick time and the EI benefits he will receive will not go very far in covering his ongoing medical, rehabilitation and other expenses.  While we hope that Steve’s recovery will allow him to return to work it will most likely be a long time from now. This fund is being established to help ensure this family has fewer financial challenges and stress during the time that is needed for Shannon to focus on Steve’s rehabilitation and Carter’s well being and care. All funds received will go to Shannon & Steve for expenses related to Steve’s recovery.  


The family has been so grateful for all the messages and actions of support from Steve's friends, colleagues and fellow members of the Vancouver Police Department Traffic Authority, where he has been a member for 20 years. We know if this were up to Steve, he would not ask anyone for help.  He is an extremely proud and strong man. But we also know that so many of us – friends and family here and around the world, want to do something to help this family that we love. We want to do something to make us feel a little less helpless.


Technology gives all of us the ability to reach out and build a community where we can now support each other like never before. What a wonderful opportunity to be able to reach out to all of you and have you know how you can help and support Steve, Shannon & Carter – thank you so much for whatever you can give.

Shauna Patterson, Vancouver, BC (Shannon’s sister)

Ellen Kurz, Burnaby, BC (Steve’s Cousin)

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on July 31, 2015

Posted on July 31, 2015

Thank you so much for all your donations to help Steve, Shannon & Carter - your generosity is inspiring!

We are so excited that Steve is planning on coming home in the coming weeks, but recognize that this will bring a whole new set of challenges as the family adjusts to a new reality. To that end we have extended the fundraising campaign for those who haven't had a chance to contribute.

Thank you again... what a wonderful support network this family has!

Shauna

Posted on July 31, 2015

Posted on July 31, 2015

From Shannon...

I know that it has been a long time since I have posted an update to all of our friends on Steve’s progress. I can’t tell you how grateful I am for the caring messages and overwhelming generosity that we have received over the past 4 months. I am sorry that I have not been able to keep you updated more. It’s hard to put into words what it has been like trying deal with having your life be completely changed in an instant, not knowing what each day is going to bring and what the future is going to look like. The hardest part is experiencing fear, sadness, hope, love and every other possible human emotion at such an intense level while still trying to keep our world together as best as I can. I am used to being a happy, fun and really positive person. Feeling like being any kind of a victim of life is really uncomfortable for me. I have had to just take things one day at a time and hope that people will understand. It has been too emotionally difficult for me to talk to a lot of people during the past few months but I hope that you all know that our family has felt all of your love and caring and we are overwhelmed with gratitude. I don’t know how we could have managed without all of the help support we have received.

I have been getting a lot of messages wanting to know details about how Steve is doing and wanting to know how his recovery is coming along. Brain injuries are incredibly complex and unpredictable. For the first few weeks after his stroke I had try to face the impossible reality that Steve could die or never again be the person I have known, loved and built my life with. Since then I have had to find a way to let go of any expectation on how things “should or will be” and take every improvement and moment as a gift. I have also found myself feeling very protective of Steve as he has being going through this. I know so many of you have wanted to see him but we have both just needed time and privacy. I know that all of our friends only want the best for him and I appreciate your continued patience and understanding. As time goes on we will be able to once again be able to spend time with and re connect with all the people we love so much.

It has been a combination of faith, love and Steve’s incredible will and spirit that has enabled him to continue to heal and make remarkable improvements. Most importantly, he is still the loving, funny and easygoing guy that is loved by so many. Steve has what is known as Aphasia, which is something I had never even heard of before this happened but is a very common result of strokes and brain injuries, as well as heart attacks. Basically, when there has been an injury to the left hemisphere of the brain it can affect the speech and language. There are many different types of aphasia and the severity varies. Sometimes it is permanent; sometimes it can be recovered from completely with time and therapy. Steve is now speaking very fluently but sometimes uses the wrong words. It can be misleading sometimes because a lot of people think that it is a cognitive issue or that he does not know what he is saying. The important thing to understand is that aphasia is not related to intelligence or cognitive ability. Steve’s aphasia is improving every day.

He is still in the hospital going through intensive rehabilitation. He is regaining more mobility each day and I am confident that with time and hard work his strength will continue to improve he will be able to walk again. His right arm is still is partially paralyzed but is regaining feeling.

Steve and I are working hard on preparing for him to come home within the next 2 to 3 weeks so we can finally be back together as a family. It will be an ongoing process of recovery and there are a lot of adjustments we all need to make. I have been trying my best to learn everything I can to be able to help him and find the people and resources that will best help moving forward.

Of course there is a huge part of me that would give anything to be able to turn back time and never have had this happen to us. It has been heartbreaking, terrifying and exhausting. It breaks my heart that Carter has had to go through this but all he really cares about right now is he has his dad here still. The reality is that it has happened and we will continue to move forward, do the best we can each day and cherish the time we now have. An experience like this is a pretty big reminder of what is really important in life and allows you to let go of a lot of the bullshit that really doesn’t matter at all. Some things will definitely not be easy but we will find a way through it, there is so much for us to be grateful for and I know that life is meant to be beautiful.


Posted on May 22, 2015

Posted on May 22, 2015

FB post from Shannon May 8, 2015

I am so grateful that I have the the truly amazing Steve Shinde as my husband and my best friend. What he has had happen in the past month could have been catastrophic and the initial "prognosis" was not good, but he is the strongest most fiercly loving person I know and is amazing me every day in his progress (though this is Steve so I really should not be that surprised)
In the last week he has regained strength enough to come off all oxygen and has begun eating, speaking, reading and had started to be able to move his right side a little bit. Every day he is progressing and I can tell he is in Warrior mode:)

Seeing him smile and laugh again is the best gift I have ever received. To be able to have our family cuddles again and watching him beginning to be able to interact with his son again is indescribable.

Steve has a journey ahead of him, but don't we all. The love and support we have received, and continue to receive, from so many has meant the world to us. Thank you.
He is now at Delta Hospital (15 minutes away from our home…yeah!) and the care he is receiving is amazing. If you would like to visit him feel free to message me.

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