God has perfect timing; never early, never late. It takes a little patience and a whole lot of faith... but it's worth the wait. –Author Unknown
We have been married for almost 6 years and are high school sweethearts, we dated 9 years before getting married. I am a teacher and Kyle works in environmental services. We live in the country and adore our dogs and cat.
Four years ago we decided that we wanted to start a family. After a year had passed, I spoke with my doctor and he suggested some testing. After getting those results, he sent us to a specialist in Atlanta. After more testing, we began a medication regiment to attempt to solve the issue. Things were not improving and we grew more frustrated. We wanted to get pregnant on our own without IVF or the costs that come with fertility treatments. The medication and testing had already cost a lot more than we thought it would. We thought that we would have several children by this point in our lives, but God had a different plan. So we waited and tried to let the medication work. After a little over a year, we said that we would prepare for IVF. Summer 2014 was going to be the best time because I would have to travel to Atlanta for several appointments each week for a few weeks. After complications, they decided to save my eggs and try again later. We were devastated.
In January 2015 the doctors said that we were ready to try again. So we got my body ready, thawed the eggs, and fertilized them. One embryo out of 10 developed, we were so relieved and hopeful. So they transferred the embryo and everything looked perfect. For two weeks I was so sick and just knew that I was pregnant, but I wasn’t. The events that followed were not pretty. We were a mess. We experienced every emotion from sadness to denial, to anger to depression in the following weeks. I especially dealt with lots of anger towards God and resentment towards others who had what I wanted so badly. I knew that these feelings were wrong and I began making a habit of praying in moments like these. Needless to say, I prayed a lot. I realized that I had no other choice but to hand it over to God. I’m not kidding you, two months later my world changed.
Being the planner that I am, I began planning the next step in making our family grow. We started talking adoption. We soon found out that agencies were too expensive for us at this time. So, we just started telling everyone that we knew that we were looking to adopt. Including a sweet, sweet friend that sends me a daily devotion. She asked if she could share our story with her Sunday school class and others, I was more than happy for anyone to spread the word. Well, she came back the next day with a name and number of a woman that through her ministry, could help. We knew that it was going to be a long process. As if our emotions weren’t already crazy enough, we had to start filling out paper work, getting background checks, getting fingerprinted, and answer some really tough and awkward questions. We weren’t in too much of a rush to get things done or to figure out how we were going to pay for all of this because we thought it would take a while to find a birth mom and make those contacts. We were very surprised last week when we got the call that one of the birth moms picked us. Oh, I left out one part….she’s having TWINS!
I’m just going to be real, we were very apprehensive about doing this. However, we know that there are people in our lives that want to help us and don’t know how.
With that said, we’re going to need lots of prayers and money to make this happen. We are so blessed to have friends that want to do this for us and help us complete our journey.
Star and Kyle