Our stories begin when we joined the military because that is ultimately what brought us together. Cody and I both joined at the age of 17, Cody joined September 11, 2001 and I joined January 9, 2006. Cody and I met in 2007 during an annual 2 week military training event. Cody suffered through an injury to wait on me to be his medic so he could begin to win me over, it worked! We have been inseparable ever since. April 2009 we were married, I became a step mom, and I soon after deployed to Afghanistan. I returned, we celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary and life was great.
A few years ago when we bought our first home in 2015 we decided it was time to try and start a family of our own. After almost a year of trying we decided we needed to see a Reproductive Specialist (RE). We began seeing a RE March 2016 in Tyler. After running numerous tests and a surgery for me to fix a birth defect in my uterus, they couldn’t really find an answer; we were given the lovely diagnosis of unexplained infertility. At this point, crazy enough, you almost want doctors to find something wrong with you so that you can have an easy answer, something to fix. Take a medication, get a shot, whatever it is, there is a fix for it. Unexplained infertility gives you nothing like that. You are left confused and frustrated because nothing makes sense. On paper, we looked like the healthiest people on earth, but obviously there is something wrong. When you are unexplained, the doctors aren’t sure what to do, so they try a little bit of everything. We started with taking Clomid and Letrozole to increase my follicle count for 6 cycles (6 months). Both of these medications did exactly what they were supposed to do, along with some great side effects (menopause symptoms; hot flashes, mood swings, cramps, etc.) but we have still have not become pregnant. Our insurance, Tricare thankfully covered all medication cycles but past this they will not cover a penny; “having a child was a lifestyle choice.” Tricare only pays for diagnostic testing and not treatment of any sort. Therefore all of our future treatments will be out of pocket. Our infertility journey has led us to a place I did not even want to consider, either Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) or In Vitro Fertilization (IVF).
To put this into perspective IUI costs about $2,000+ and IVF cost around $20,000 per cycle (month). We have an appointment with a new RE to get a 2nd opinion and a plan moving forward. I have many questions for this RE, if you know me, you know that I do my research and know all side effects and possible pros and cons.
With the support of the most amazing family and friends we hope to be able to fund this journey so we can have a mini-Smothermon in our arms. There is nothing more that I want than to be a mother and have a little Cody and me running around adding even more laughter and joy to our lives. Our super supportive friends and family are coming up with other ways to fund this journey; stay tuned!
We are incredibly blessed and no matter where this journey leads us I know that we will be okay.
Please share, ask questions, and please talk about infertility. Our main goal is obviously to get pregnant and have a mini-Smothermon, but also to raise awareness about infertility. We hate that it is such a taboo to talk about and want more people to be aware and the ones struggling to not feel alone.
Thank you in advance for even taking the time to read this, for thinking of us and praying for us, for sharing this with others. We are blessed and loved and honored.
If you share please use the hashtag below. Cody's nickname has been Smoothie since Army bootcamp.