Many of you have asked how you are able to support us as we work to expand our family via IVF. For those that don’t know, our fertility journey started in 2008 when Nick got diagnosed with a type of Cancer (Hodgkin’s Lymphoma) while in New Zealand for a ski race. This left Nick 100% sterile with no ability to conceive & reproduce naturally.
“I noticed a lump on my neck & went to the doctor for a blood test, needle biopsy & then surgical biopsy that concluded I had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Luckily my doc at the time, although I was single and 28, recommended that I freeze some sperm because the radiation & chemotherapy would make me sterile. It seemed strange to be thinking that far ahead but went ahead with his advise and fortunately still have a piece of me, my DNA, to contribute to our child. I did 8 months of 4 chemo drugs, which cures the majority of those diagnosed with HL, but for me, didn’t work. I then went on and did 3 months of 3 more chemo drugs and 3 days of full body radiation in preparation for a bone marrow transplant. The first transplant had me hospitalized for 16 days and was unsuccessful. After that, 3 more months of chemo to prepare me for a second transplant. That transplant was also unsuccessful so I was admitted for a clinical trial in TX. I did 12 treatments in TX over the course of 2 years, which consisted of taking my brother Nate’s blood, extracting the T-Cells, modifying those cells to ONLY fight the Epstein-barr (the driving force behind HL), and engineered those cells to be resistant to the toxin that the Hodgkin’s disease puts off. I didn’t really know what options I had if this didn’t work, so was hoping for the best.”
We met in Oct. 2011 while Nick was still undergoing treatments in TX with weekly blood draws in CO. The best news possible came to us on Dec 17th 2013 when we learned that Nick’s scan had come back and showed no clear signs of Cancer and was in Remission!
We got married Oct 2014, recently celebrated 2 years of marriage, and 3 years of being Cancer FREE! Mid 2016, we decided we are ready to add another Asoian to the mix, so we got going right away on the process.
Based on what Nick had stored, we had the ability to try IUI twice (aka Turkey Baster), and then would have to resort to IVF (aka test tube baby). Due to the fact that insurance sees this as an elective procedure, no part of the IUI and IVF processes are covered. We tried our 1st IUI attempt in Oct/Nov and were devastated when the results were negative. Regaining emotional strength, we tried again right away in Nov/Dec and again ended up with no pregnancy. This brings us to today, knowing that we must move forward with IVF. It’s an intense process that begins early Feb, and God willing, will take us through the healthy birth of a baby. We are extremely excited and know that the road of emotional, physical & financial stress will be so worth it!!
It’s been a trying & humbling experience and we thank you for your love & light. Every thought, prayer, question, concern and interest in our latest life chapter is a constant reminder of the support system we have and we cherish you. We welcome you to ask questions about the road we have traveled thus far, or what we know about the path ahead. Here are some ways to cheer us on, thank you again and again and again.
If you would like to help offset the financial burden of this process, please donate whatever you are able – every little bit helps. Otherwise, keep us in your thoughts & prayers; we are grateful to be a part of your positive energy & optimism. Also, please SHARE OUR STORY! You never know what people are going through, and in sharing our own experiences aloud, we want to inspire and give others hope.
Love, Nick & Darcy Asoian