OUR FAMILY STORY
Hi. I am Crystal. I’m the writer in the family so it’s only fitting that I tell you our story. Some of you may have found our link through my website and know me as the writer and creator behind Kreative in Life, while others are life long friends or our beloved family. However you got here, thank you for joining us on this journey.
My husband, Nick, and I have decided to take a huge leap of faith with sharing this and asking our friends and family to support us through fundraising. Thank you for taking the time to read our story!
Nick proposed to me when we were 20 years old. A month later I was diagnosed with PCOS and my doctor told me it would be very difficult to get pregnant. We decided to get married quickly so we could start trying to grow our family. A year and a half later, I still wasn’t ovulating so we became foster parents, which is where we met our kids. James and Joseph were the first to move into our home. Nick and I were 22 and naive, which I think worked in our favor. We got a huge dose of reality and found out what people in the world were capable of. We in turn felt first hand the affect abuse and neglect had on children and had to learn to parent those children. It was very hard.
Six months later, our daughter, Grace, moved in with us. Within a few months, all our children were diagnosed with PTSD, ADD/ADHD, anxiety, our boys had ODD and we just knew our youngest was on the spectrum. Later our kids would all be diagnosed with dyslexia and other learning disabilities. We fostered these children for three years before we were able to adopt them. It was the BEST DAY EVER!
Fast forward 14 years and today our kids are 17, 19, and 21 and they are amazing and thriving in their lives! As a mom, I couldn’t be more proud of them! I tell them all they time that they were born from my heart.
Next year, our youngest will graduate high school and then all our kids will be in college. Nick and I are currently 37 and we just aren’t ready to be in that season of life. We started our family earlier than most and adopted older children. We have never, for one minute, regretted that decision. Our children are our life! We know that if we had gotten pregnant, our path would have been different, so we are thankful that God took great care in creating our family. It doesn’t matter to us that our kids share our genes because we know that LOVE is what makes a family.
Four years ago, my body started ovulating for the first time in my life. We went through two miscarriages. The second pregnancy made it to 11 weeks and that loss was one of the hardest experiences in our lives. It was very hard to wait 12 years for this miracle only to lose it but we have always trusted God and didn’t stop in that moment. Since then, I have undergone numerous tests and doctors say since I am ovulating, there is no reason I can’t get pregnant and carry. Last year, I decided to leave the classroom and work on my consultant business, so we could pursue fertility treatments. Those did not work. We have prayed for direction and feel that adoption is where we should be. At this moment, my body is no longer ovulating, which made this decision even easier.
We recently launched a shirt fundraiserand it’s geared towards teachers. Our kids wouldn’t be who they are today without the love and support from their parents, family, friends and TEACHERS. My job as an education consultant and writer is to encourage and inspire teachers, which I feel is an honor. After the persistence of family and friends, we decided to start a YouCaring site too. It’s difficult to ask for monetary donations but we know we can’t do this alone. We know God has great plans for our family and we are thankful for those who love us and wish to support us.
Nick and I want nothing more than the opportunity to love another child. Having a baby has been our prayer for 16 years now. You can follow our journey through our FB page too. I will post updates there and here as I have them. Thank you so much for supporting our family. Please know that we appreciate you.