Sloane's Mommy is Fighting for Recovery

For: Danielle (Tardif) Adams
Organizer: Emily Tardif
Sloane's Mommy is Fighting for Recovery (Danielle (Tardif) Adams)
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The Story

If you are reading this you know Danielle. If you know Danielle at all you know her as above all else SLOANE'S MOMMY. It's obvious by all the facebook updates and instragrams if you follow her you know it's all about Sloane. It's not easy to ask for help and I would never expect Danielle to ask anyone for anything because I know she would not. But I will ask, she is my sister, best friend even my co-worker so its my job! In the current economy any health issue that arises is going to be costly and Danielle needs to not worry about the cost right now. Danielle was recently diagnosed with Breast Cancer, to be more specific Invasive Ductal Carcinoma high grade (8-9) and triple negavtive (not the best combo). Danielle caught it early when she felt a lump and the last month has been overwhelming to say the least. MRI, Petscan, Genetic testing, chemo teaching, waiting on insurance approval for each and every little thing.  Its time for her battle to begin with Chemotherapy and eventually surgery after the tumor has shrunk. Things have changed with breast cancer they don't just head to surgery and take it out. Being triple negative they need to know that the specific combo of her chemo drugs is going to work not cross their fingers and hope that it does after they remove the tumor. I personally do not want Danielle and Jamie to have to worry about how they are going to pay for each treatment on top of fighting a tough fight. I know how asking for money in these times is tough, but imagine fighting against breast cancer and trying to pay for treatment and keep a roof over your head and keep your child in daycare all while trying to work a full time job (you who know Danielle she came back to work a week after she gave birth!)  I know Danielle is a super woman but even a super woman needs help sometimes. If you can help thats great and if you can't prayers are always welcome and a huge help as well. Thank you in advance if you can help it means the world to all of us that Danielle has all of you in her corner. And ladies get those mamagrams ask for them early it' your life and frankly it is one of the few things covered 100% by most health insurance so take it!
God Bless,
Emily Tardif

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on February 20, 2014

Posted on February 20, 2014

I have been going over and over in my head for the last couple of months trying to find the words to write this Thank you post. I do not have a way with words like my sister does plus I start to write and my brain gets cloudy. It is apparently a side effect of chemo they lovingly call Chemo-Brain. It could last a few months or a few years. I am not a fan I mean who would be but sometimes I cannot even think of the right word I am trying to use.

First I want to thank my sister Emily for starting this website for me. It really means a lot to me. I also want to thank my whole family. Everyone, my husband, my parents, my sisters, my bro in law really turned out and helped me in so many ways. The little’s including my girl, my nieces and nephew really helped out as well. Everyone really pulled together and I know I was a handful.

Like I said above I am not good with words but I hope you will get my meaning.  I am not going to thank everyone by name because well that will just take about forever and who really wants to read an 80 page list of names. Frankly I am also afraid I would forget someone and I would feel awful if I did that.

Thank you to everyone who donated money. I cannot even explain to you how much that helped Jamie and me this past year.  To not have to worry so much about paying the mounting medical bills was really a blessing. It was so incredibly kind of everyone.

Thank you to everyone who brought us food during chemo. It helped out so much. I wasn’t feeling great and it is really hard to take care of your family cooking and cleaning so all that was priceless.

I have a giant group of geeky/nerdy friends out there, you know who you are. Some of us have yet to even meet in person and you amaze me every day. Thank you so much for all the lovely goodies you sent me. Clothes, Hats, Toys, Action Figures, Books, DVDs, etc. etc.  All those amazing gifts really brought a smile to my face. Thank you guys so much! The internet gets a bad rap sometimes but I have met some of my best friends online and they mean the world to me.

Thank you to everyone who sent prayers, added me to their prayer lists at church, sent happy thoughts and pixie dust. Thank you for the notes, cards, emails, messages and all that good stuff. When you are going through this it is nice to know that you have people out there thinking of you.

I will end this with a little update. I had my exchange surgery on Dec 12, 2013.  We like to say I got my Christmas Bells a bit early. That is a little crude I know but you need laughter in this situation because honestly there are far too many tears. My plastic surgeon is really pleased with how they turned out. I have to say they look pretty good even though getting used to them is pretty strange.

I had a bone scan a couple weeks ago because I am having a lot of pain in my bones but it came out clear so that is good. My oncologist said it is just my body healing itself after all the chemo I had.

As of right now I am done. I am in remission or also what they call NED(no evidence of disease). I will be seeing my oncologist every 3 months for this first year for blood work and a checkup. After that it goes to every 6 months or so. I will also see my plastic surgeon every couple months to make sure all is healing with my implants.

So that is that.  I am coming up on the date I found the lump in March of 2013 which also means I am coming up on the day I was diagnosed which was March 29, 2013. Truthfully I am feeling a little stressed about it. We will thankfully be out of town having a relaxing weekend I hope will help.

I will update this if there is a change but really I hope I never have too. I am going to start crying now.

Well I did it. It is a bit whacky for which I am sorry but hey that’s me. I cannot THANK YOU all enough. Honestly you are an amazing group of people. I love you!

“May the Force Be With You”

D


Posted on December 4, 2013

Posted on December 4, 2013

Hello Team D!

Much anticipated update!

Next Thursday December 12, 2013 Danielle will be having her exchange surgery. This is exciting for a number of reasons for one it is within the calendar year yippee, and two she is far enough removed from chemo to have the exchange done!

Now it is nice this part is done in the calendar year because it’s a huge expense, and since the out of pocket max has been met it is nice to squeeze this one in. It is not the end of bills or total treatment and tests and things but the bulk is out of the way. She will still have stuff to pay but not huge surgical bills. There will still be multiple appointments and also therapy.

As I have mentioned before Danielle has not been in the best mind set. As you can imagine it is hard to shake the feeling that this is ever truly going to be over. Or that this may someday come back. Danielle is triple negatives and although there are no guarantees are team is very confident that her chances of recurrence are very slim! They won’t totally clear her until she hits the three year mark of being cancer free but hey it’s a start so we are in the right direction.

She will have good and bad days as can be expected because I have never had cancer I cannot begin to imagine how hard it is to live with these feelings every day and to move on. We all encourage Danielle to do so, to live life, to enjoy her life and her family and her little lovely Sloaney and I think she will get there a little bit every day. Baby steps just like everything else in life right?  Sloane turns 4 Friday and they have a big Disneyland trip planned so that should be a nice.

Thank you so much again for all of the love, support, donations, cards, well wishes they mean the world to Danielle! This will be my last update for a while.

I am going to have Danielle do the next update when she is feeling up to it after surgery to let you all know how she is doing and so she can thank you all herself!

God Bless! Hope you all are having a lovely holiday season!

“Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful. ”

?Norman Vincent Peale

Emily


Posted on October 9, 2013

Posted on October 9, 2013

Hello Team D!

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month please ladies make sure to get your mammograms and do self-breast exams. Treatments have come such a long way but early detection is key, so check those boobies!!!

I have not updated in a bit because there has not really been much new to tell. I guess there has been news but none I really felt compelled to share at the time. Danielle has just completed her 3rd round of this wicked chemo. Guys this stuff is bad, I know you see pics of Danielle with hair and smiling, and yes her locks are looking really fantastic but that’s as far as it goes.

Danielle did get to join us for a family outing it was a first she has not really seen many people from the family in the last six month was but was able to make it out to Kenzie’s 2nd bday party, everyone was really happy to see her and she had a really good time.  Cousins Joe and Ashleigh had an auction at Joe’s retirement from the Coast Guards and gave the proceeds to Danielle so many amazing peeps on Danielle’s team!!! Everyone that has donated or sent a gift card or food or even just came for a visit every little thing matters so much.

This is just nasty stuff after the first round it was like ok I am sick for one week ok the next, well round two it was sick for a week and then well it didn’t get better Danielle only got 2 good days in round two. Which leads me to Monday we went in for round three, no matter how many times I see them stick Danielle is still have to look away I just can’t stand it. Well Monday must have been a record because the infusion nurse could not find a vein she must have stuck Danielle 15 times in a two hour period.

Let me explain this if we left that building Danielle was not going back, there would not have been two more chemo’s there is only so much one person can take. I knew that was the case, she said I am not leaving they are not having me come back another day it has to be today.  You have to understand if one thing gets pushed back everything gets pushed back and she needs this to be done in this calendar year the girl has been through enough she doesn’t need to drag this into next year.

So we stayed and the nurse kept trying, there is a phlebotomist that we love at Breastlink her name is Cassandra she is amazing she feels for veins with her eyes closed and always gets you the first time. This is not an exaggeration, she is that good.  She sees Danielle and knows she is upset and grabs a stool and rolls over and just starts feeling around which make the infusion nurse a bit peeved because she isn’t allowed to do IV’s.  It takes her all of about 15 seconds to be like I don’t know what the problem is there is a big vein right here asking to be used, the infusion nurse even ends up letting her put it in. Two hours later but at least we were on our way.  I doubt there will be any good days this round this stuff is just so bad.  Danielle has one more round so she is looking at about another month of feeling like she is going to vomit every second of every day and then probably even for a few more weeks after that. Breast Cancer the gift that keeps on giving. Her next surgery will be probably sometime in December but I will be doing an update again before that with all the details.

Danielle did get to see Donna she is now her Primary Care doctor, if you remember Donna left Breastlink a month ago and Danielle was a bit lost without her. She feels so grateful to be back in her care for the long haul after this part is over.

This quote is for Danielle….”That really hurt! I'm gonna have a lump there, you idiot! Who throws a shoe? Honestly! You fight like a woman!” – Austin Powers

God Bless

Emily

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