Help Ben Regain Health and Be Cancer-Free

For: Ben Sayer
Organizer: Carrie Sayer
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The Story

Dear Friend,

My husband has cancer.

Ben is our life-loving, compassionate, generous, dear husband, father, and son. He means the world to us, and now he needs our help.

On October 1, Ben had urgent surgery to have a tumor removed. It turns out the tumor is malignant.

My beloved Ben has bladder cancer.

We are a family who love to work hard, play hard, create, connect, discover and encourage each other and everyone to follow their dreams. To live out your passions. To express yourselves and have a total blast in the process. We love life and we love sharing that joy with everybody.

Ben has always put family first. He is a self-starting entrepreneur who works from home so our young family can be together as much as possible. I am a self-employed drama coach for high school students. We have a modest income that covers usual expenses. 

But these enormous hospital bills are staggering, and we cannot bear the weight alone.

Our health insurance coverage begins January 1, 2014. Like millions of Americans, we have planned to sign up under the Affordable Care Act for benefits. The marketplace opened October 1, which ironically was the day of Ben’s cancer surgery.

We asked Ben’s doctor if his surgery could be put off until January. “Absolutely not,” was the answer. We went ahead, knowing it could be the difference between life and death.

Now we face cancer treatments and mounting bills not only for the urgent testing and surgery, but for whatever lies ahead that we must do to save Ben’s life.

Please help us if you can. We need you. Please give whatever you can to help us pay for these massive medical bills.

Together we can create a miracle.

Thank you and God bless.

With deep love and gratitude,

Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige Sayer
7570 2nd Street
Dexter, MI 48130

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on July 31, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

Hello! There is good news and bad news.

(Although I try not to make judgments, and sometimes what we label "bad" is actually a hidden gift, with a silver lining....)

Soooo, Ben had his second post-treatment cystoscopy. The result came back: All clear. No evidence of tumors. HURRAY!

Other news: Ben is still bed-bound due to an incredibly painful anal fissure. It's been three months and counting. He's been to the surgeon for a follow-up appointment. They further dialed in application of a medicated ointment meant to allow the tissue to relax and heal. Surgery is a last resort, according to his doctor. Especially since a common side-effect is incontinence. Yeah...not fun.

There is still daily bleeding, and great pain. These are exacerbated when Ben attempts any physical movement.

Okay, here's some silver lining: Ben has continued work on his information products related to genealogy, software, and evidence collection. We expect this to generate income in the near future.

In the meantime, I'm spending a ton of time with Logan and Paige, enjoying outdoor summer activities (we're about to host a small garage sale today:) and giving Ben time to rest and heal.

Please pray, contribute, share, send healing vibes, write reassurances, anything you feel moved to do to help our family through this tough time.

Thank you! with gratitude and love,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige 

Posted on July 5, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends, 

Ben has been in bed for two months. His anal fissure is extremely painful. He has remedies to help the tissue relax and heal. It's a long process.

Ben's next post-treatment cystoscopy to test for the presence of cancer is in two weeks.

In the meantime, Ben's contract has ended, and we are currently with limited income.

On the plus side, we are home together a lot. Logan, Paige and I are spending time playing outside and in. My parents have been helping with the lawn and around the house. I've called some friends to babysit so I can clean. It's a trying time, but I work every minute to stay positive and hopeful. 

Thank you for your support, with many blessings and deep gratitude,

Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on June 24, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

Last week, Ben met with his primary care physician and was referred to a surgeon, due to what was originally thought to be aggravated hemorrhoids. Ben was examined by the surgeon last Friday. While Ben does have hemorrhoids, the terrible pain that has kept him bed-bound for the past six weeks is instead due to an anal fissure.

Ben was given a prescription for medicated ointment that will help the tissue relax and heal. More bedrest is prescribed, but the good news is he does not need surgery, and--forgive the pun--the end is in sight, for the pain to subside.

We are also awaiting the results of a provoked chelation test Ben underwent last week. This will show how well Ben's body rids itself of heavy metals.

This week is Ben's final week of his contract. We are continuing to explore and create other sources of income.

As always, thank you for your continued prayers.

with love and gratitude,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on June 16, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

Happy Father's Day!

We spent a lovely day at home, including a visit from my parents. Logan, Paige and I did bike riding, baseball, board games, singing,'s been a really fun day.

Ben has been prone for six weeks now. He joins in family activities as much as he can (see our beautiful Father's Day pictures in the front yard!). We are eager for him to gain some some insight and ultimately relief for his significant discomfort from hemorrhoids and digestive issues.

Ben will have a cystoscopy in the next two weeks, to check for the presence of any tumors. He will also have a chelation test, to see how well his body is getting rid of heavy metals.

We are working on finding and creating sources of income. Ben's got two more weeks of pay until his contract ends. We remain positive and upbeat, with days full of hope and prayers.

with love,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on May 31, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

Ben has been prone for a month. He's had issues with his digestive tract, resulting in extremely painful hemorrhoids. He will be getting a referral to a proctologist.

We also now have a new spelling challenge: "hemorrhoids" is correct. Google helped me.

So, this month has literally been a pain in the butt.

As you know from previous updates, Ben's contract ends June 30. Our life is full of challenges and possibilities and brainstorming and prayers.

Time for the Serenity Prayer:

God grant me...
...the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
...the courage to change the things I can;
...and the wisdom to know the difference.

Thank you for your ongoing love and support,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on May 26, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

Hello! Ben's next appointment with his urologist is June 12. He will have another follow-up cystoscopy that day. Hoping for good news, and a "no evidence of tumors" report. Naturally, we will keep you posted.

with blesssings,

Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on May 1, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

May 22 is Ben's next cystoscopy. His urologist will check for any evidence of recurrence of cancer.

Ben is continuing on his maintenance plan. This period with targeted supplementation is intended to restore his digestive tract to optimal functioning.

His next doctor's appointment is July 10, 2014.

At that point the plan is to do a chelation test, to measure how well Ben's body can rid itself of heavy metals. 

At that point, his doctor will determine the next course of action. That could be chelation, or to continue letting his body flush the heavy metals at its own pace.

After the chelation test, we will revisit the issue of when to remove Ben's amalgam fillings as well. 

Blessings, with love and gratitude for your continued prayers and support,

Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

Posted on March 25, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,

We learned last week that Ben's contract will not be renewed beyond June 30, 2014.This has been our main source of income. 

So, we are feeling a sense of urgency and are turning to our friends once again to please help us make it through this scary and challenging time in our lives.

We are cautiously optimistic about Ben's health. Ben had an appointment with his doctor last week. They are refining all of the healthy things that need to go in, and identifying all of the toxic things (i.e., heavy metals) that need to come out.

Ben's liver is not functioning properly yet. His immune system is not functioning properly yet. His body is struggling to effectively get rid of toxins. Ben now takes over 100 supplements each day. Now on a new regimen, he will have a follow-up appointment in three months to evaluate his progress. We hope his body will improve its ability to 
become a healthy system.

All this to do everything in our power to reduce the probability of cancer recurring.

Please help if you can. Prayers, sharing our updated news, contributing to Ben's care, sending love and good wishes. All of it helps. We deeply appreciate everything you do.

God bless,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige - See more at:

Posted on February 24, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,


They will also be testing Ben's urine for evidence of cancer cells. Results...soon.

Next cystoscopy: May 22, 2014. Protocol: a cystoscopy every three months for two years. Then, a cystoscopy every six months for two years. Then, one every year.

"Cystoscopy and urine cytology— Repeat cystoscopy and urine cytology testing are recommended for surveillance, beginning three months after treatment ends. If there are no signs of recurrence, cystoscopy and urine testing are usually recommended every three to six months for four years, and then once per year."

Please keep sending love, prayers, support. We feel very loved and hopeful.
Ben, Carrie, Logan and Paige 

Posted on February 17, 2014 by Carrie Sayer
Dear Friends,


Well, weather happened, and Ben's cystoscopy was postponed to this Wednesday, February 19, in the morning.

We are of course praying for a "cancer-free" result.

Stay tuned for more news. Please help us spread the word. 

with love and blessings,
Carrie, Ben, Logan and Paige

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