Before I forget, let me thank EVERYONE for their support and prayers. I have found a new wonderful job at a beautiful resort in Highlands, NC. The OLD EDWARDS INN and SPA; the owners are great people and have the faith and courage to put a framed Bible verse in every room!
What is truth? I have come to believe that most people make up their own truths to fit their beliefs and ambitions. Long ago I heard a quote that said, “What is perceived is what is believed”. So many times one’s own truth is only based on their perception of what the actual facts or real truth might be, but because of their perception the real truth or other’s perceptions do not matter.
I believe that I have quoted this line from the movie RUDY in previous posts, but it is worth mentioning again; especially in the full context of the conversation between Rudy and Father Cavanaugh. The scene begins with Rudy praying by himself in church.
Father Cavanaugh [in church] Taking your appeal to a higher authority?
Rudy: I'm desperate. If I don't get in next semester, it's over. Notre Dame doesn't accept senior transfers.
Father Cavanaugh: Well, you've done a hell of a job kid, chasing down your dream.
Rudy: Who cares what kind of job I did if it doesn't produce results? It doesn't mean anything.
Father Cavanaugh: I think you'll find that it will.
Rudy: Maybe I haven't prayed enough.
Father Cavanaugh: I don't think that's the problem. Praying is something we do in our time; the answers come in God's time.
Rudy: If I've done everything I possibly can, can you help me?
Father Cavanaugh: Son, in thirty-five years of religious study, I've come up with only two hard, incontrovertible facts; there is a God, and, I'm not Him.
I believe that at times we pray in our own time and we ask God for the truths that we want to believe based on the perceptions that we have for the outcome to make our truth the only truth, the only reality. However, God’s ways are not always our ways and I have found it difficult at times to pray the Lord’s prayer and not get a little stuck on the verse that says, “Your will be done”, because many times my will is not in line with God’s will. I want to make my own truth, but sometimes the real truth is simply what it is.
Our truth as it relates to Brady is that we have to face the earthly facts and the opinions of the doctors that there is not a lot of options left for Brady as it relates to defeating the cancer that attacked him at such a young age. To quote on of our doctors, “You know we are passed the point of hoping for a cure?” That might be a little shocking for you to hear, but it really wasn’t for the Mickey family. Since Brady’s diagnoses everyday has been one more blessing. We knew the odds then, even though we wanted to make our own truth about how Brady would beat this cancer.
Brady understands where he is in this fight; although we know that he has not given up. He is still fighting and will continue to fight.
We of course will continue to pray for miracle, but I also ask that you pray for peace and understanding for Brady and the Mickey family, especially Peri. It is hard for all of us, but I can not even begin to understand how a mother must feel at a time like this. I pray that our Blessed Mother, Mary gives strength to Peri because She understands what Peri is going through. Brady’s older brother are home for Thanksgiving and they are being very supportive…You hope you raise good kids and then you find out through adversity that despite your best efforts to ruin them, that they turned out pretty darn good!
I heard the old Conway Twitty song today, THAT’S MY JOB. To some of you it may not really fit for what is happening now, it is more about a father’s passing than a child’s, but this part of the verse struck me this morning…
And I said, "Daddy, I'm so afraid
How will I go on, with you gone that way?
Don't wanna cry anymore so may I stay with you?"
And he said, "That's my job, that's what I do
Everything I do is because of you
To keep you safe with me, that's my job, you see."
So I ask that you pray for me as well. “To keep you safe…that’s my job.” I will continue to keep Brady safe for as long as he is on this earth and everything I do will continue to be for Brady, his brothers and Peri. I just wish God had other plans; a different truth for us.
Peri and Brady are going to be staying in a very nice two bedroom apartment on the property of our very good friends the Christie family as I make the transition to the Old Edwards Inn on December 7. They may join may they sooner than later, but we are going to play that by ear for now. We are trying to keep things as normal as possible for him for now. I don’t know what else to say at this time, but to say keep praying, thank you and know that we will never give up hope…
“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”
The Mickey Family