Posted on April 7, 2013
This last week, I've been wading through all the literature for support groups that the hospital provides. One gorup helps with the $12+ a day for parking. One group runs a camp for cancer kids and their families in the summer so they can get away from it for a week. One group meets once a week to just meet with other parents and vent. There's a group that goes room to room on the cancer floor asking parents if they need any groceries because you'd be amazed how often a parent is caught unprepared when their child is admitted and didn't bring any toiletries or extra clothes. I was one of those people. I was there for three days straight, in the same clothes, afraid to even leave for a cup of coffee and have Max wake up alone. When a lady with a grocery cart walked by and offered a toothbrush and toothpaste and a brush, I was enormously grateful. There are times when you just can't be prepared. If one of those times is when your child is raced to the hospital, it's probably the worst week of your life.
Cancer is expensive. It stabs your bank account from a thousand directions. Parking, gas, oncologist, surgeon, anesthesiologist (Max's guardian angel - priceless), and don't forget the room is over $2000 a day. Do you know what kind of palatial accommodations you can get in Vegas for $2000 a night? I wouldn't be fantasizing about toothpaste, I can tell you that! For $2000 a night, Dr. Oz should be stopping by each day with some awesome greek reed-grass toothbrush that prevents aging.
We need your help. We're a one-income family now and Kelly is killing himself scrambling to compensate.
But more than that, if you don't contribute today or any other day to Max's fund, please look into the amazing programs for cancer families. Ronald McDonald house needs things like tuna and tuna kits, cup o' soups, snack packs, pop tarts, post-it notes, postage stamps, hand soap dispensers, toiletries, paper towels, ziplock bags, can openers... easy things to pick up and drop off at the hospital that would mean the world to a stressed out parent. You can go to the Houston website at rmhhouston.org, or if you're outside of Houston, just google Ronald McDonald House.
Candelighters offer programs where you can adopt a family during the holidays. We're not just talking about families who are broke. When you get blindsided with cancer, you don't have time to do normal things. How do you leave your child at the hospital to go to Toys R Us for Christmas presents? You can help. You can adopt a family and help give them a holiday. We almost missed Easter completely this year because we were just too exhausted to decorate eggs and assemble baskets and buy Easter clothes. If it wasn't for Kelly's family, Max wouldn't have hunted for a single egg. Can you imagine if a family was too exhausted for Christmas? You can look them up at www.candle.org
I could give you a long list of awesome groups like this, and if you want to know more, email me at [email protected]
and I'll connect you to some amazing people.
Or you could just take a day and go to the surgery waiting room and pray with the single mother who has no friends or family and just handed her baby over to a surgeon and is quietly sobbing alone.
Or you could visit the chemo floor or even the surgery floor and get to know some parents to see if they need a ride to Target - or better yet, can you get them anything?
You don't have to donate to Max - but we'd be grateful if you did! But please take one day this month or year to look at one of these great organizations and maybe drop off some soap. A toothbrush and toothpaste. You have no idea how much something so small can help soooooooo much.
Thanks again, our friends - old and new, familiar and anonymous - for your amazing support and prayers. We are so grateful to you!
With love and prayers,
Heather and Kelly (and Max!)