Anyone that has seen us recently is probably thinking, a baby? NEXT MONTH? But you're not pregnant? Nope. I'm not. But we ARE about to be parents!
Matt and I have kept our lives fairly private over the last year. We struggled with infertility for the first 4 years of our marriage. In the beginning of 2016 after a lot of thought, we decided to pursue IVF. 1 year of non-stop doctor's appointments, endless injections, 1 egg retrieval, 2 embryo transfers & 2 miscarriages, we were defeated. We didn't want to give up and KNEW that we were going to be parents someday. We decided to start the process for adoption as soon as we could. In November of 2016 we planned to sell our house and downsize into a rental where we could save money and focus on building our family. Our house sold in NINE DAYS and we were excited because it meant our adoption plan could start even sooner. We close January 17th, and are in the process of moving now.
It seems the universe had a COMPLETELY different plan for us.
Wednesday January 4th, Matt was at work discussing our adoption plan with a co-worker. Another co-worker stepped in to tell him that he has a close friend, who is 8 months pregnant and was struggling to find an adoptive family for her baby. He asked if we would like to meet her, and after consulting with her, set up a time to meet that night.
We met and instantly felt connected to her. She told us her reasons for choosing adoption and we shared our story as well. Her only request was that she get to name the baby, as she had picked out his name when she found out he was a boy. The name she picked was MATTHEW. Matt's face lit up and he shared with her his lifelong dream of having a son named after him. [I realize this is starting to sound like a Lifetime movie, but it is ALL true!]
After 3 days of talking and bonding over our love for this baby, we coordinated with an adoption agency and birth mom agreed to let us adopt this sweet baby boy.
After 10 years as a daycare teacher, nanny and an often obnoxious parenting advise giver, I will finally have a baby of my OWN to love and cuddle. Matt will finally have somebody to build sandcastles with and throw a baseball to, that loves taking naps as much as him.
Baby Matthew is due FEBRUARY 10th! We have had no time to save, fund-raise or buy baby stuff. We are also mid-move AND have to complete 3-6 months worth of paperwork, background checks, a home study etc.. in 4 weeks!If you are able we hope you will please donate and help us reach our goal! (price breakdown below!)
If you are unable to donate, please send all kinds of happy thoughts, positive vibes, prayers and love out to our sweet birth mom. She truly is an amazing person and I don't know if I'll ever be able to explain to her how grateful I am for her (but I am sure going to try!)
If you have kids and are local, we are HAPPY to take any baby stuff you don't need off your hands!
If you are feeling extra generous but are not local, and want to send us anything new or used, I am happy to provide our address!
We are BEYOND excited to start this next chapter in our lives and are counting down the days until we can hold our SON.
Adoption Agency Price Breakdown:
Adoption Entity Fee: $6,000
Legal Fee for Finalization: $2,000
Birth Mother Living Expenses and Post-Pregnancy Care: $2,500
Estimated Third Party Costs: $1,200
Counseling for Birth Mother: $600
Baby Medicaid Application: $250
Expedited Home Study: $1225
Background checks, fingerprinting, required online parenting classes: $975