Posted on March 28, 2017
Posted on March 28, 2017MIRACLES do happen. On March 15, our close friend shared Kendall's picture and update from March 14, which showed a beautiful smile on Kendall's face and eyes all bright. This is when we knew she was "all there". We got almost 2,000 likes and 197 shares! People really appreciated the visual of the start of Kendall's comeback! Well, after our friend shared the post, one of her friends messaged her and said her husband was a first responder from the Police Department. I'll call him Brad. Brad said, it was NOT Kendall's time. He said "if you had of seen the vehicle, there was this perfect pocket carved out where Kendall's body was pulled from, it was as if she was completely protected by something much greater, it was like a pod." He couldn't believe it. Then there was Brett Bridgeman, who helped put the flames out on Kendall before the Fire Department arrived, and he described where Kendall was sitting as a "chamber" that protected her. So we believe too, God spared Kendall, and it truly wasn't her time. Now, this makes me really sad too. Why was it Sam and Lilly's time, why couldn't they have been spared too? For that, I have no answers, only continued prayers for the Sacks and Davis family. We will forever be tied together and I will always support these families in every way I can.
But something else has been TOTALLY nagging at me - speaking of tied together. I'm not a person that really believes in coincidences. As a strong believer, I think people are put into places and God has plans for all. And although I don't know the greatness that Kendall and our family will accomplish yet, I do know this isn't all for nothing. A few weeks after the accident, Jerry Davis (Lilly's Grandfather) visited us in the hospital. He was one of the nicest men I think I've ever met. Jerry has gone through so much tragedy in the last several months, it is almost too much for one person to bear. In August, Jerry's wife passed away, then his brother passed like a week before Lilly's death. But Jerry took the time to come visit us and tell us how he was praying for Kendall and needed her to make it, they didn't need any further devastation from the crash. Well, we got to talking and asking how long he has lived in Dallas and where he is originally from and he mentioned Abilene. I quickly told him my grandparents were from Merkel, a town about 15 miles west of Abilene, that doesn't have a stop light. It shows today a population of 2,000 people, but I think that's exaggerated. Well, Jerry quickly said he had relatives that lived in Merkel too. Turns out, we are related. To put it in simple terms, Lilly and Kendall's great grandparents were first cousins. My grandmother and Lilly's Dad, Jon Davis's grandfather were first cousins. Now, I go to Vegas once a year, but I couldn't tell you what the odds of this would be. It would have to be like 20,000,000 to 1 - seriously, there are 27,000,000 people that live in Texas, and I'm pretty sure I'm not related to more than about 20. My dad had one brother and my mom was an only child, I just don't have a lot of relatives! Anyway, I hope when the dust settles a little more, we can be better friends and more support for the Davis family, and the Davis family is actually family. I feel like there was a reason we are related, a reason Kendall and Lilly were in that car together. Again, something good has to come out of this, if I have to make it my life's mission, I will. I refer back to Proverbs 3:5&6, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make straight your paths.
And now I will finally get to it...how's Kendall? Kendall is doing GREAT! She is getting stronger and stronger, living up to her hash-tag #kendallstrong. Kendall is getting into a routine of PT/OT/Burn Care, etc. We hope she will get stronger everyday, so she can eventually stand, then walk. That will be the day everyone might get a VIDEO! :-) I promise to make it a quick clip. Kendall has an iPad she is now texting, Tweet messaging (I didn't even know that was thing) and watching her favorite Netflix's episodes which include Gray's Anatomy, That 70's Show and of course my favorite, Friends! Kendall does this by using her left hand. Her right hand still isn't much help, she can squeeze it, but that's it for now. And, outside of that and working on her reading, her memory (both long and short-term) are great! The nurse asked her what she ate for breakfast, and she quickly listed off everything, meanwhile, I was racking my brain trying to remember what I ate! So, I expect her to keep trucking and hopefully get out of here in another week or so, depending on her burn healing. Then we would transfer to one of the best Neurological Rehabs in the country, which is located in Downtown Dallas. We all are looking forward to the next phase!
Thanks to all for listening/reading, it helps me keep records and remember the little things that happen throughout this journey. More people have told us they love us, than ever. What a gift that is in itself.
Posted on March 24, 2017
Posted on March 24, 20173/23/17 - It will be 6 weeks tomorrow. Really can't believe it. I think I've said it before, but some days it seems like only a couple of weeks, and some days it seems like an eternity ago. Our lives have changed. Lots of lives have changed, and not just the Sacks, Davis' and Murray's -- lot of families lives have changed. The boys that were in the other car will also never be the same. To have to witness such an event could haunt anyone for a life time. We hope and pray that time will heal all wounds, people will deepen their faith and God will provide all with the strength we need to get through.
Now, on to my usual subject -- Kendall. She continues to amaze me. Although several times she has broken down and said "I just want to go home", her overall attitude remains positive and driven. Today she told me she wants to try and stand again tomorrow. I told her I really thought she needed to be able to sit longer than 15 minutes before we needed to try and stand again. But I still love her strong will to get up and try to make it happen. Since she now has her full personality back, her sassiness is showing up in full force. Kendall has always been smart, just ask her and she will tell you her PSAT score. So she has started calling the nurses out on their mistakes and telling them when they need to do something. They might have liked her more before she could talk! Kendall reminds them she needs her "strong medicine" 30 minutes before her dressing change, which really isn't a dressing change, its more of a roll her around, re-pack her deep wound and sponge bath her. When she gets this one med.....she takes a deep sign and says....awwwwww. Kendall jokes that she doesn't have to ever do drugs, she has already done them all! Scary, but true.
So from a physical standpoint, Kendall is moving almost all her parts. She is just now today, starting to slightly squeeze our hand with her right hand. Halleluiah! She can't really move her fingers yet, but I'm now really confident if she can squeeze, she will get there. During PT, the Physical Therapist, was working with Kendall's arms and told her to keep her right arm over her head for as long as she could, and as soon as she let go, it dropped right down! We all kind of laughed, so guess we need to work on that.
Mentally, she is getting quicker by the day. She laughs, watches TV and listens to music. She is struggling to read a bit though, at least as well as most Sophomores, but she definitely can read, it's just slow and methodical. But again, we are confident she will get there. Her brain continues to improve everyday.
We are adjusted to the new digs, and training in the new staff. I can't end without saying THANK YOU. We could not do what we are doing for Kendall without all the help and prayers we have received.
Posted on March 21, 2017
Posted on March 21, 2017
3/20/17 -- MOVE DAY! Kendall was transferred via ambulance to an LTAC (Long Term Acute Care) facility in far West Plano, so pretty close to home. So after 38 days in ICU, we were discharged! YEAH! I can't tell you how many doctors and nurses came by and congratulated Kendall for doing so great, wished us well, and made us promise to come back and see them. There were lots of HUGS going around! They also asked for us to bring cookies and Krispy Kreme Donuts! And we can't wait until the day we are able to walk in and thank everyone for the wonderful care we received from The Medical City of Plano (MCP), it will be SWEET and we will bring them the goods! Len kept notes starting at about day 5, and wrote down 26 different nurses and 15 different doctors.
We are all very excited, to get to this next step. Kendall was transferred via ambulance and her sister Kaylyn road in the front seat, so Kendall wasn't riding by herself. Len followed with all the "STUFF" loaded in the SUV. We had quite a lot of stuff, after 38 days. The LTAC is meant to be a stop to get Kendall's wounds and burns better, so she can heal a little more before going into more intense rehabilitation. When I look back at the MCP stay, I now have a greater understanding of needs when family is in the hospital. Many of you that are reading this update, also knew. People brought us pillows, blankets, Starbucks Coffee, Einstein's Bagels, cases of water, journals, lunch, dinner, cards, stuffed animals for Kendall, inspirational gifts and books, prayer shawls, prayer blankets, CHOCOLATE (that's important) - and all of you out there that participated in bringing these items knew exactly what to bring. I now know what people need and look forward to paying it forward to the next family in need. It was so very helpful.
Kendall had a good nights sleep in her new home, so far she has adjusted well. She has her same sand floating bed, not exactly like a BEACH (we both agreed upon that). We have a gown-up room just outside her room, which is nice, so we keep her room very sterile to prevent any infection with the burns. Kendall gets to keep her Burn Dr (Cowboy Boots), he will come see her a few times a week now, just not everyday. She still has a lot of pain with her back, but we are managing it with pain meds as she requests now. Hopefully as they continue to heal we will continue to wean off the meds. Kendall is getting a LOT of attention as the "newbie" on the floor. Her nurse last night said she was so happy to have a "baby", Kendall asked me what is she talking about?? I had to tell her she means your not 80 years old, your a baby for this place! So they already love her and told her they want to take her home with them when she's better.
The real estate is good....closest room to the nurses station, larger with the gown-up room, two couches for sleeping and plenty big. No view of all the helicopters coming in like MCP, so we put the GIANT picture of her cat in the window. It actually scared me when I woke up this morning. Apparently there was an elderly women they booted out of the room for Kendall. A gentlemen came busting in her room and asked "where the hell was his mother", and I said I didn't know, he quickly asked "why the hell don't you know" --- thinking I was a nurse, certainly look like one with all the garb. He quickly apologized and went on, but I'm thinking he probably wasn't happy with his mom's new real estate. Oh well.
I can't write these updates without thank you for EVERYTHING! Len and I couldn't have come this far without you. Please continue to pray for Kendall's complete healing. We now have movement in all her body parts, except her right hand, which we will be working on. I figure if she can move her right arm, she will eventually be able to move her right wrist and fingers. I mean it was only 7-10 days ago, she couldn't move her toes, and now she can. Kendall somehow keeps a smile on her face mostly and a very positive attitude. God Bless you all.