The good news is that we raised a little over $30,000 in 2016 for Bobby! After more than a year enduring several different variations of difficult chemotherapy to treat his Stage 4 colon cancer, with varying degrees of effectiveness, Kashif''s cancer is not responding to treatment in the ways it once did. Periods of intense pain, discomfort, and a few hospital visits have peppered the last few weeks. So doctors are shifting him to a new treatment - an oral medication they hope will help sustain him and keep his tumors at bay while we wait for the possibility of more effective cancer-fighting drugs, or entry into a coveted drug trial.
However, because of the toll that chemotherapy has taken on his body in the last year, and the current state of his disease, it has become too physically demanding for Kashif to work. This will be the case for a while as he recovers from one form of treatment and transitions to another and becomes accustomed to the physical side effects of the new medication - a time that may stretch to several months. But right now, his income has screeched to a halt.
And so we're embarking on a furious drive to raise funds for Kashif in order to meet the most basic of living expenses he can no longer afford -- food, shelter, utilities, internet, the occasional milkshake. We hope he will receive disability payments soon, but that is not yet guaranteed. PLEASE consider a donation, however small or large, to help Kashif make it through this challenging time. With medical options becoming more and more limited, and the severity of his illness, make no mistake he's in a fight for his life. We are his family, friends and supporters, and it truly takes a village. Please take a moment now, and contribute what you can. THANK YOU so very much!
Kashif (aka Bobby) is an artist, a poet, a writer, and a filmmaker. He gives his time and energy teaching others so that they can embark on their own journey of self expression. His presence at once lights up a room and puts others at ease. There is no one like him.
Our young friend and brother was recently diagnosed with stage four colon cancer that has metastasized with tumors on his lungs and liver. But he still has the will to fight this battle! Youth and courage are on his side. And so are the many friends he has made throughout his life.
Because Kashif will be unable to work as he faces an intense chemo schedule in the weeks and months ahead, he will need financial assistance. The disability application could take up to a year to process. In the meantime, any funds raised will directly help with:
- Taxis to and from bi-weekly chemo sessions at Sloan Kettering Memorial Hospital in NYC. He has to go twice a week, every other week.
- Doctor visit co-pays
- Medication co-pays
- Rehabilitation after the chemo schedule has run it’s course in 3 months
- Specialist that may not be covered by insurance
- Food/ Groceries/ Household items (Toilet paper, paper towels, soap, etc)
Whether you call him Kashif or Bobby, if you know and love him as much as we do… please give! If you do not know Kashif, trust us, you will fall in love with his amazing smile, understated charm, and willingness to help others.
Our fundraising goal is set for 30 days, but his fight against cancer will be much longer… months and years. And we plan to be with him every step of the way. Your financial contribution will ensure that Kashif doesn’t have to worry about the potentially large medical bills and daily and everyday costs that have already begun to accumulate.
If you are interested in giving to Kashif in other ways, we could use your help with transportation, meals, etc. Just reach out to us and we can put you in touch with the person coordinating these efforts.
We will stand by our brother in his time of need. Can you join us?
Because there is just so much love out there for Kahif, please find more amazing thoughts and stories about him:
- Bobby is a kind and creative spirit. He cares deeply about people as reflected in his many adoring friends. He also cares deeply about his craft of writing which is reflected in the quality and depth of his work. - Grace Edwards
- A favorite memory also includes Bobby telling us we needed to ask him to babysit, and the first time he did, our son victor (who was a toddler at the time) threw up all over him and everything else in the house. He STILL volunteered to babysit for Victor after this event- true friendship.- Jenny Navasky
- The first time I knew Bobby was when we got together with our friends to watch Michael Haneke's "The Seventh Continent," and he and I took the unpopular opinion that the movie was pretentious, poorly shot drivel. We took some heat for that from our friends but stayed strong in our view. We've had plenty of great conversations since then about cinema and storytelling, and it's always a good time hearing his thoughts on film and life. - Greg Brecher
- Bobby once said to me something I think about almost every day: that he is a vessel for stories that come down from God. I'm not a religious person, but when he said that, I knew he was right. His stories contain such honesty, depth and beauty, but more than that, to me what Bobby was saying spoke to the source of his strength. Being a poet and writer requires real faith and courage, the ability to stare into blankness and craft a story, relay meaning, give other people a sense of understanding and maybe hope. He doesn't know this, but I quote him often on this one. He has given me a way to think about art, and why we do what we do that keeps me going when I've run out of reasons to keep writing. - Morgan Faust
- Once during spring break we spent a whole day walking around eating at every highly-ranked hamburger place in New York. I'm not sure why that felt like an important thing to do at the time, but I'm glad we did. Bobby's a lovable, talented, compassionate guy, and a big part of my great memories of Columbia University.- Shawn Wines
- When Bobby Cox enters a room, he brings joy. He is soft-spoken and unflappably supportive, to the point that the casual stranger would never know the depth of his talent and insight. He's a fiercely innovative artist and visionary storyteller.- Gina Atwater
- Bobby has an incredibly generous heart and a way of making other people feel so special, heard and seen. Whenever I was feeling down or frustrated during graduate school, a quick chat with Bobby could make me feel on top of the world. I was so blessed to take a screenwriting class with him and read his beautiful, heartfelt stories and have a glimpse into his incredible imagination. - Livi Newman
- Whenever Empire State of Mind plays, my husband, Chuk, and Bobby will inevitably be singing the duet and arguing over which one was Alicia Keyes (or which one wasn't). - Jenny Navasky
- It was 2008, my first year in New York, and my first winter. Bobby was kind enough to invite myself and two other friends who had nowhere to go over break, to his home in Far Rockaway. Far where? I had never heard of it. And because of Bobby I would never forget it. We walked the freezing piers of Rockaway Beach. He showed us where his go-to Jamaican food spot was. How to catch the dollar van. He invited us into his home. And as we stood on the street where he lived as a boy, he pointed out the Manhattan skyline across a big stretch of water. All that time growing up in Far Rockaway, he told us it never occurred to him that he could go to Manhattan. He could see the island, and the skyscrapers, but he didn't think he could touch it. Wasn't anything there for him. And then one day he made it. That to me was poetry. Bobby is poetry. With a soul that couldn't be contained! I'm so glad he made it to the island and I was lucky enough to make such a friend. - Laurie Thomas
- It was Bobby's birthday party. The clock struck midnight and Bobby transitioned from yelling at the DJ to "turn up Mariah!" to turning the music off completely and somberly facing the crowd. He gravely raised his whiskey high into the suddenly silent air and declared that it is time to give presents. He takes out 6 little gift bags, which everyone is eyeballing....while simultaneously eyeballing all the people at the party. Everyone is simultaneously thinking about how there are significantly more than six guests this party. Bobby gestured to the crowd with his near-to-full whiskey glass and in a booming voice announces the six people who are receiving a birthday gift from him. And when he was done, he immediately turned up the music full blast and started dancing as if it hadn't happened. It was the most Bobby birthday ever. Literally four-fifths of the party was standing there empty-handed, but no one could be butthurt because it wasn't THEIR birthday. It was the most hilarious Bobby