Joel Alter is expecting twins this winter with the help of a surrogate mother.
Joel is 49 years old, a single gay man, rabbi, son, brother, uncle, friend, teacher, good cook, and hiker. He's always wanted to be a father, though he deferred that hope for a long time. In anticipation of a child, Joel wrote: "I adore children. When I encounter them I try to connect and play with them. I delight in the puzzle of kids and am moved by their needs. The opportunity to be there for a child and guide her or him in life, to witness the child’s discovery of the world and relearn the world through a child’s eyes, to introduce and explain and uncover the world, to wrestle with right and wrong, to be proud of my child’s development and accomplishments … these most basic motivations of parenting all feel natural to me. It’s more than 30 years since I internalized the sacred aspiration of raising up a child into Jewish community and tradition. Even after all this time, for me being a parent is an essential part of being the person I aspire to be, and bringing up children is what I feel called to do."
After pursuing adoption but learning that it would be an unknowably long path to fatherhood, Joel considered surrogacy. Serendipity struck, and he was introduced to a wonderful, experienced surrogate mother in Texas named Brittany whom he has come to know and like and respect deeply. Brittany is pregnant, has cleared the first trimester and, God willing, expects to deliver Joel’s children in February.
Surrogacy is expensive. Accounting for all associated costs, this birth process requires well over $80,000. Joel reserved funds for this purpose for many years. These funds and other personal allocations allow him to carry well over half the total cost himself, and his family is generously providing additional support. Hopefully a broader circle can lighten Joel's financial burden as the Alters start on their way.
Thank you for considering supporting Joel as he welcomes children into his life!
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