Memorializing Victor Emanuel D'Alessandro

For: Desiree D'Alessandro
Tampa, FL
Organizer: Desiree D'Alessandro
$1,480
of $1,350 goal.
Raised by 23 donors
100% Complete
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The Story

My name is Desiree D'Alessandro. I am the daughter of Victor D'Alessandro, who passed on 1/3/2017 from Liver Cancer. The video highlights my unconditional love for him, as he was an exemplary father and man. It was an honor and a privilege to be his caretaker during his final months. His loss has devastated me, as I am now the last living member of my immediate family. I pray he is now at peace and reunited with my mother and brother in heaven.

To memorialize him, I want to dry clean his silk boxing jacket as an item that symbolizes him($15), preserve it alongside other mementos in an enlarged mahogany shadow box($150), and preserve a small portion of his cremated remains in a glass artifact from ArtfulAshes.com($235). Any donations earned in excess of the estimated $400 in expenses will go towards his original cremation costs ($600). This brings the entire campaign goal total to $1000.

This campaign's black & white photos were graciously provided by The Fine Art Photography Co.

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on March 27, 2017

Posted on March 27, 2017

3/27/17 CAMPAIGN UPDATE: I'm so excited to announce the dad's Artful Ashes glass memorial orb that infused his remains arrived! It's STUNNING!!! I'm so pleased with the results. It's exactly as I had envisioned and hoped it would turn out. I love that they did a custom engraving on the bottom that reads "Victor" as well. I found a beautiful glass case that was on sale that fits the orb and lighted base! Even the wood base of the case matches dad's mahogany shadow box for his jacket display. It's crazy how perfect everything has been going... almost like it's a sign or dad's helping me from beyond. His Tampa RiverWalk paver should be completed sometime in May. I also recently found a gorgeous gold locket for a steal of a deal at a flea market to hold my family's photos and keep them near my heart... I miss them terribly.

I had a vivid dream about dad the other night. I dreamt he wasn't dead. He woke up in a body bag, cold and alone. He left the crematorium and went to the business next door and asked them to call the owner and that he'd be waiting outside. Typical confrontational Italian dad move. He was returned home to me, stronger than he was before. I was shock as he told me the wildest story I had ever heard. And while I was ecstatic, the thought crossed my mind that I'm not sure I'd be able to handle witnessing him die all over again...

Grief is a difficult thing. I have stopped going to therapy and I'm now trying to refocus my grief into new art works instead. I will keep everyone posted. Thanks again for everyone's love and support!

Posted on February 12, 2017

Posted on February 12, 2017

2/12/17 CAMPAIGN UPDATE: I've been continuing to make progress with the generous donations from my supporters. Dad's mahogany shadow box arrived, I purchased additional lighting, and installed it in my office. It's a beautiful piece that makes me think of him every time I look up from my computer. His silk jacket and gold chain look extra sharp under the added illumination. I ordered the memorial paver for the Tampa RiverWalk and mailed a portion of dad's remains off to the Artful Ashes company for the production of the glass art piece. Production for both should take a couple of weeks. The colors I went with were Black and Gold, because daddy loved the Pittsburgh Steelers! I'm confident he would have approved.

Now I have to take the rest of the remains to the site where my mother and brother's ashes were scattered along the Hillsborough River. It's going to be another difficult day. I'm used to those though, especially as of late. I had my first session of grief therapy on Friday. It went well, I guess. He was shocked I hadn't sought counseling previously. He also said that "for someone so young, the loss you've experienced is tremendous." At the end of an hour... I wasn't sure how I had made it this far either... but I have no intention of stopping. I plan to continue to stay as strong as I can, live as well as I can, and honor my loved ones. What else is there in this life? God only knows.

Posted on January 31, 2017

Posted on January 31, 2017

1/31/17 CAMPAIGN GOAL UPDATE: It's hard to believe today marks a month since my father's passing. It's absolutely crazy... it feels like simultaneously the fastest and longest 4 weeks of my life. I think of him and miss him every day. Since my mother and brother passed in 2005... I was a lot less mature and organized back then. I ordered official death certificates and received them in the mail. That in itself was emotionally challenging. I wanted the evidence and the official record of their dates of death for when I order the memorial paver... God forbid I make a mistake with the dates! I've also ordered dad's shadow box for his jacket and purchased lighting to go in the display. It's a step-by-step process... one that I'm handling probably too methodically. I want everything to be perfect. I don't want to make mistakes. I don't want to disappoint. I want them to be proud of me.

I received a call from the cremation facility that dad's ashes death and certificate are ready. I plan to pick them up on Friday. Friday is going to be difficult. God, give me strength.

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