Posted on January 16, 2018
January 15, 2018
Dear Friends –
Connor’s interment of ashes was held on Saturday, January 13, 2018, at the Upper Hillside Cemetery in Issaquah in a small, private service. When we awoke that morning, it was raining and the skies were painted with that all too familiar “Seattle Gray”. Later in the morning the rain stopped and gray skies gave way to some “peek-a-boo blue.” As Connor’s service ended there was more blue sky than gray and we took that as a very positive sign from Connor.
The plot we selected for Connor’s ashes was near the eastern edge of the cemetery just feet from the green belt surrounding the cemetery. We wanted Connor to be near the many animals that frequent this property. A representative from Flintoft’s pointed out a game trail that leads from the forest almost straight to Connor’s grave site. We’d not noticed that before, but it was further confirmation that this was the correct spot.
Three new pictures have been posted. One shows the location with the beautiful greenbelt noted earlier. Another picture shows Connor’s ashes as we prepared for his service. The greenbelt is prominent in the background. Finally, there’s a close-up picture of an animal clinging to a tree branch. This is not a real animal. It’s one of the cute sloth plush animals we received after Connor’s death. We put it up in the tree in a location where it can look straight at Connor’s grave. I’d love to have a game-camera in place to see the reaction of animals and visitors when they see a sloth in the Pacific Northwest. Connor had a very clever sense of humor and I know he would approve of this move.
Our family is trying to resume a “normal” life, whatever that might look like moving forward. Our grief is still very raw and real. We have far more questions than answers about what happened to Connor. We know the likely cause of death according to the “provisional” autopsy report we received. But the “Why” and “How” has been hard to come by. We aren’t trained medical professionals so reading through the paperwork fails to provide answers.
This will probably be my last update for the foreseeable future. While I used to be excited to provide updates on Connor’s excellent progress, his sudden and unexpected death makes writing this especially painful.
In closing, I want to again thank everyone who has contributed to this YouCaring site. We are hopeful that the money raised will cover the funeral and medical expenses. The bills from the University of Washington for Connor’s surgery, hospitalization and unsuccessful visit to the ICU have not yet been processed by our health insurance company. We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. But boy, won’t that be some sick irony to have to see all of those charges, on top of paying for Connor’s funeral and burial. That’s a real head-scratcher.
Please continue to keep our family in your prayers. Trust me, we’re going to need them for some time.
Blessings to you all,