Help The Hastings Fund -- Support Alexandra, and David

For: Alexandra, David, and Tristan Hastings
Byram, CT USA
Organizer: Friends and Family of Alexandra, David, and Tristan
$67,811
of $100,000 goal.
Raised by 627 donors
67% Complete
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The Story

Four years ago Alexandra was living the fullest life! Her years of hard work as a director and stage combat performer had lead to her dream job, which she was set to begin a few months after she gave birth to her beautiful new son. She loved being a new Mom and relished the time with her baby before diving into her exciting new gig. The only frustration was one of her breast just wasn't producing much milk.

Because it had cancer. Really aggressive cancer.

She immediately weaned the baby and began chemo. Genetic testing revealed that she was a BRCA carrier so she underwent a double mastectomy and oophorectomy.

For years Alexandra has kept working and kept hopeful and kept her cancer personal. Only her family and a very small circle of friends knew how much the family was struggling. We were all sure this would pass and she could soon resume her life and her work.  Last year things were really looking up: she was healing from her reconstructive surgery, regaining her upper body strength and finally planning for the future. But just as we breathed a sigh of relief, cancer showed up on her spine.

She was back on the battlefield: experimental treatments, experimental chemo, and a much harder and longer fight. Love for her son and her husband were the passionate fuel for this fight. No one was stronger or more positive. Those of us who loved her were in a constant state of admiration. She was always really good at pretending to be a warrior, but now we know she really was one.  But even the greatest warriors find a foe they cannot defeat. And on Sunday morning, Alexandra put down her sword.

As freelance artists and entrepreneurs Alexandra and David had always been in modest but decent financial shape, but their rainy day fund has long since been devoured and the toll of a four year cancer fight with almost no safety net is beginning to show: rent, student loans, nursery school, car payments, and medical expenses mean that David must continue to work as much as he can. Now he needs help to pay those bills, and to hire someone to help take care of his young son, when he's at work.

This is a special, beautiful family absolutely brimming with love and kindness for each other and their neighbors. They have given their lives to creating delightful, hilarious and thrilling shows for audiences all over the US, despite the risks and the low pay. Please help us get them the extra help they need in this difficult time.

They need so little, but it would mean so much.

Fundraiser Updates

Posted on March 28, 2017

Posted on March 28, 2017

It is with great sadness that we inform you that Alexandra has passed. Even the bravest of hearts must eventually bow, and she was so very, very brave.  Her Light and her Love shine on in her son Tristan, and husband David, and in everyone she touched.  Everyone who ever met her walked away better, with a quicker step, and feeling loved.  She was truly one in a million.  She will be missed.

We want to thank everyone again for their contributions, and their comments.  It has brightened David's days to know how many people she touched, and it will be a good thing for Tristan to see when he's older, to know how much his mother was loved.

Obviously the focus of this fundraiser has now changed.  David still needs care for Tristan, now more than ever.  And there are many expenses to come that pile up, medical and otherwise.  Now everything will be going to those bills and, as David said "to give every advantage possible to my son."

Thank you all.  I know I speak for David when I say how much this means to him.  It eases a terrible burden, and allows him to focus on what matters: his son.

Posted on March 23, 2017

Posted on March 23, 2017

They always had a lovely time at Christmas

Posted on March 22, 2017

Posted on March 22, 2017

Once again, we have to thank all of you from the bottom of our hearts for the tremendous generosity of spirit and love you have displayed.  It is truly touching.  The other day, I printed out a list of the comments that people left, so David could read them to Alix, and he said it brightened her spirits considerably.

However, as well as the fund raiser has been going, things with Alexandra are not going so well.  She has been in the hospital now for 2 weeks, and her health is deteriorating.  Her mother has come back from France, and is by her side, as is David.  Tristan is visiting her as often as possible.

I’m not going to lie to you, things are grim.  Our original goal of a mother’s helper was replaced by what we saw as a need to have a nurse who could help Alix when she got home.  Honestly, that no longer is in the cards. Now we are planning on finding care for Tristan, and taking care of the numerous expenses that Alix will leave behind.  At this moment we are uncertain of the medical bills that will have accrued, and the effect that David’s time off from work will have on their finances.  Whatever is left will be going to aid David and Tristan transition into their new way of living.   

Thank you again, and please hug someone you love.

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