Help Bob's Kids (Abigail & Daniel Meek-LaVeck)

Help Bob's Kids

For: Abigail & Daniel Meek-LaVeck
Organizer: James LaVeck
Help Bob's Kids (Abigail & Daniel Meek-LaVeck)
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of $5,000 goal
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On Friday, January 24, 2014, Bob Meek-LaVeck died unexpectedly and suddenly leaving two children, a husband, a family and a community mourning his passing and the hole his passing left to his survivors.

As the primary, stay-at-home parent, he was dedicated to his children and selflessly volunteered his time and efforts to the school and community at large.  Though only a resident of Lunenburg, MA for 2 1/2 years, Bob's reach was far and wide as he worked on what he thought was right to help this community he loved.

He was a devoted parent, spouse and son whose light shone as brightly as his eyes.  The light has gone out, but the warmth of his radiance will remain in all he knew.

Online obituary:  http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/fitchburg/obituary.aspx?n=robert-h-meek-laveck&pid=169523196

Article about his passing:  http://www.sentinelandenterprise.com/news/ci_25041773/lunenburgs-bob-meek-laveck-remembered-his-advocacy-volunteerism

Updates

06/04/2014
by James LaVeck
It's hard to believe that three years ago on the 1st of June, we purchased this lovely, old home.  Bob and the kids flew out early while I took care of getting the house ready in Ventura, California to rent out.  I'm fairly certain it was three years ago today that they came to Lunenburg to get the new house ready for me.  So much has happened in these last three years; some major, some minor; some good, some bad.  

The best part has come in the form of all the friends Bob made here, friends that I have now inherited.  Then there was all the work Bob did for the PTO and the New Lunenburg Middle/High School Building Project and our amazing, once in a lifetime vacation to Europe last year.  The worst, as you know, took place 131 days ago when Bob left this world.  Since then, we've been picking ourselves up and dusting each other off, some days with more success than others.  

I just wanted to thank those of you that continue to support us and help keep us standing.

05/13/2014
by James LaVeck
109 days later, and I'm told the Medical Examiner's office is "unpending" Bob's cause of death.  Part of me wants to know, another part says it doesn't matter.  I should learn by end of week.

We passed the 100 day mark quietly.  One of us remains watching the calendar, while the others go on with their days and occasional moments of grief hitting them.  Three guesses who's doing what, and the first two don't count.

05/13/2014
by James LaVeck
109 days later, and I'm told the Medical Examiner's office is "unpending" Bob's cause of death.  Part of me wants to know, another part says it doesn't matter.  I should learn by end of week.

We passed the 100 day mark quietly.  One of us remains watching the calendar, while the others go on with their days and occasional moments of grief hitting them.  Three guesses who's doing what, and the first two don't count.

03/31/2014
by James LaVeck
It's been a little over 9 weeks since Bob left this world.  Abby has had her first birthday without him.  Both she and Daniel are struggling with emotions -- how can they express them? What does it all mean?  Where do we go when we die?

There are easy answers to some of the questions they have, but there are questions that only invite more questions which cannot be answered by me, and I don't believe they can be answered by anyone. 

That's the hardest part about this entire ordeal -- seeing the suffering of our children.  I am dealing with being a single working parent (albeit, differerently that Bob did and perhaps there are some things I can do better).  I remain grateful for the support the community has provided to us.

I keep asking why?  Why did this have to happen to us?  Why did he have to leave the kids?  How is this going to impact their lives in the long run?  I have to do whatever I can to be here for them while they grow up.  

03/14/2014
by James LaVeck
It's hard to believe seven weeks have passed since Bob died, leaving a big vacancy in our lives.  Each day brings new challenges as well as new opportunities.  I am learning how to be a full-time PCG (primary care giver) as well as a full-time employee.  Millions of parents do it, so I'll eventually understand how to do the balance thing (hey, my mom did it with 3 kids).  For those of you following along on Facebook, I've been sharing some of our final conversations and today I posted part of our wedding video (for all intents and purposes, it was a wedding even if not legally recognized by the state).

The daily meal deliveries have stopped. I do miss that I don't have to worry about what to cook, but I don't think I'll miss the extra calories.

I've taken off my ring, and after 14+ years there remains an imprint and discoloration on my ring finger.  Almost like it is with Bob.  Both the ring and Bob are no longer here, but there remains an imprint and reminder of what was there.

02/13/2014
by James LaVeck
I wanted to take the time to thank all of you who have donated to date.  At just under three weeks, it still doesn't quite feel real, though the kids and I know it is.  Without our family, including our chosen family, this would be much harder, so we appreciate not only the donations, but also the friendships and knowing you all have our backs. 

02/10/2014
by James LaVeck
On Saturday the 8th of February, we held the memorial celebration of Bob's life.  Daniel counted the seats when we came in (92) and when we left, we noticed more were added and people were standing in the back.  It was an amazing turnout for an amazing person, and I thank all in attendance  and those that were there in spirit.

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